Didn't I Feed You Yesterday__ A Mother's Guide to Sanity in Stilettos - Laura Bennett [13]
I have found a way to use some of Peter’s, let us say, more feminine traits to my advantage. He is always willing to help me with the design of a dress, and he is never leery of carrying my purse at a party, he is so secure in his manhood, or lack thereof. I think he secretly likes the sparkle of the tiny Judith Leiber clutch against his old Rat Pack black tuxedo. Even more amazing, though, is his complete lack of hesitation when I send him out for tampons or yeast infection cures.
“Here,” he says, handing me a bag. “I got you the Monistat three-day capsules with the external cream, and the one-day treatment from Vagisil that comes with the cool comfort wipes. I wasn’t sure which you’d want, and they both sounded like viable possibilities.”
I’ve always been aware of how much smarter Peter is than pretty much everyone around him, including his wife and offspring. I used to chalk this up to the age difference (eighteen years, but who’s counting), but lately I’ve had to admit that he is simply always right. I have come to accept this truth, which makes it no less annoying. Because he is smart, he assumed his children would be as well. He was a bit disappointed when the test scores started rolling in.
“Sorry,” I said, handing him a pre-k admissions score sheet. “I’m average. I diluted your gene pool.”
This houseful of average doesn’t bother me at all. I have seen many a person with a genius IQ have difficulty navigating day-to-day life. Peter is one of these types, always misplacing things and being mildly disappointed in the world around him. It can’t be easy for him, and if he were a people person, I’m sure it would bother him more. He has wonderful social skills, but prefers not to use them. Peter’s carefully cultivated “crazy professor” demeanor is an attempt to ward off normal discourse, particularly with strangers. He also has this way of looking at you with crazy horse eyes, which is sort of off-putting at parties.
I recently read about prosopagnosia, a brain malfunction that interferes with facial recognition. Peter has this. We can be at a party thrown in his honor, stocked with blood relatives and lifelong friends, and he will still tug my sleeve and whisper “Who is that?” in my ear as a colleague of twenty years walks up to us to say hello. I have to say “Hi, David, how are things at the Architectural Digest? Peter just loved the spread on the Ford project. Didn’t you, dear?” We’ve got it down to a Mad Libs formula, where the sentence is pretty much the same, and I just fill in the personalizing blanks. If I go too far away from Peter, he pinches my arm. I like to think of it as a love bite.
Peter doesn’t rely only on his scary eyes and wacky hair to excuse him from being social; for many years, he used smoking. It worked brilliantly—he could step out of a conversation or a meeting, or exit between courses at a boring dinner party, and hide away for the eight minutes it took to drag one down. He had this funny little habit of putting out a cigarette by rolling the cherry off the end. He then put the butt in his pocket; by the end of the day his clothes would be full of stinking shriveled trash. One day he was in a meeting with clients when little twirls of smoke started coming out of his pocket. A smoldering butt had combusted and ignited the accumulated garbage. When Peter realized what was happening, he tried to get up and leave, but by then his jacket was on full-tilt-boogie fire and he was fast becoming a ball of tweed and flames. His clients