Flex_ Do Something Different - Ben [33]
Wait for the other person to call instead of always taking the lead.
If you are unsure about something, don’t act; wait and see how you really feel.
Reply to a letter or request without delaying.
Practise saying, ‘This is how I feel about that right now.’
The definite-flexible dimension
Definite? Try being more flexible.
Let someone sell you something small you’d already decided against.
Ask yourself how it seems from the other person’s point of view, e.g. how you interact at the supermarket checkout, or how you reply to an issue your partner raises.
On the hour each hour, stop before you do what you are naturally going to do next. Could you try something different that might be more beneficial?
Try someone else’s suggestion instead of your own.
Let others be ‘right’ today.
Ask for advice from someone around you whom you can’t remember asking advice from before.
Practise saying, ‘It’s up to you.’
Ask for advice from someone in a shop.
Listen to a radio station you know you don’t like.
Change your routine; do three things today that you wouldn’t normally do.
Act according to an alternative view to one you have held for a long time.
Let others be themselves; don’t question or criticise them.
Turn a blind eye to some usual household chores today.
Flexible? Try being more definite.
Take a stance and see the benefits of a firm line.
Be less accommodating (when you think it is appropriate).
Make a strategic decision and act on it.
Pay more attention to the big issues; don’t be distracted by the smaller details.
Stick to a choice and don’t change your mind.
Imagine you are a brand and invent a personal slogan.
Answer the question, ‘Where is all this activity taking me?’
Imagine what it’s like to be right most of the time.
Be tougher with someone than you normally are.
Make a decision that you’ve been putting off for a long while.
Ask yourself, ‘What would I do if I was in charge?’
Set a new house rule and stick to it.
The risk-taker-plays safe dimension
Risk-taker? Try playing safe more.
Check all the facts before doing something.
Have a back-up plan in case things go wrong.
Work out fully what could go wrong, and what to do about it.
Add up all the costs of doing the things you do.
Ask yourself, ‘What would my parents want me to do?’
Check out the fine print in all your insurance policies.
Get things in writing.
Reserve judgement before offering an opinion.
Wait until you know someone before committing to anything.
Practise saying, ‘What are the guarantees?’
Plan your days according to the long-range weather forecast.
Before deciding to try something new, get the opinion of three friends.
Seek out someone who has expertise in the area before trying something new.
Fill up your car before it gets anywhere near empty.
Have your boiler or car serviced.
Put some money away for a rainy day.
Play safe? Try taking more risk.
Have a flutter – place an affordable bet.
Tell someone what you think of them.
Challenge a fear or phobia.
Do something where there are no guarantees.
Take up an extreme sport.
Wear a T-shirt with a provocative slogan.
Ask people what they honestly think of you.
Plan a barbecue on a day when rain is forecast.
Leave your underwear off and cross a busy street.
Face a fear today, no matter how small.
Single? Invite someone who appeals to you out on a date.
Practise saying, ‘What’s the worst that could happen?’
Go to a restaurant and order something you have never heard of.
If you’re single, ask a friend you trust to set you up on a blind date.
Go to a club/event/film on your own.
Introduce yourself to a neighbour you haven’t met.
The behave as others want-behave as you wish dimension
Behave as others want? Try behaving as you wish.
Don’t go along with someone else’s suggestion.
Plan an evening around what you enjoy doing.
Choose a different option to the rest of the group.
Put a long-lived secret dream into action.
Be the one who stands out and speaks up.
Keep a journal of your wishes – and your goals.