Marcel Proust_ A Life - Edmund White [42]
Even more important, a “patronage” sort of homosexuality in which an older, richer gay man helped along in his career a younger, poorer, usually heterosexual man was virtually an institution in Latin countries until the 1950s, when growing prosperity and unsupervised heterosexual dating at an earlier age did away with the foundations of such a practice. But in Proust’s day this sort of quasi-sexual patronage, far from seeming exploitive, was actually considered to be charitable and generous. Proust’s sexual tastes changed over time from an attraction to gay artistic peers (such as Reynaldo Hahn and Lucien Daudet) to working-class heterosexuals such as Agostinelli and, subsequently, Henri Rochat, a waiter at the Ritz—a change that, of course, would make him intensely unhappy.
Agostinelli, besides being linked to the ugly, jealous Anna, had a sister who was the mistress of the baron Duquesne, a brother who was a chauffeur, a half-brother who worked as a hotel waiter, and a demanding father. Alfred apparently sent money to all of them, which he earned by gouging Monsieur Proust (at one point Proust sold some Royal Dutch stocks worth twenty thousand dollars in today’s money and wired it all to Agostinelli). In a letter to his banker Proust wearily remarked, “When one loves not members of society but people more or less poor, these sufferings over love usually double one’s considerable financial problems.” He thought that it was a shame he couldn’t fall in love with a member of his own class, since it would have cost him a great deal less money.
Proust was certainly in love, to the point that once he and his entourage had arrived in Cabourg in 1913 for the whole summer, after a few days he suddenly decided that he had to return to Paris instantly in order to be near some mysterious woman. The “woman,” in fact, was Agostinelli himself, who had to drive Proust back to the capital, a sudden whim that gave Proust a few precious days alone with his beloved and removed the young man from the presence of a new woman he’d just met at Cabourg and whom he had begun to court. In Remembrance of Things Past the Narrator, worried that Albertine is about to take up with Vinteuil’s lesbian daughter and her friend, invents an amorous pretext for dashing back from Balbec to Paris with Albertine. Proust knew perfectly well that he was only irritating Agostinelli, but his jealousy was stronger than his wisdom. He cut his beard, hoping to please his beloved, but to no avail. As he’d told friends