My Reality Check Bounced! - Jason Ryan Dorsey [24]
Rahul, twenty-eight at the time, took the advice to heart. After all, this movie star had achieved his dreams in his twenties. One month later, Rahul quit his management job and moved all the way to India to try to qualify for a professional golf tour. Now he is ranked in the top one hundred on the tour and he’s been playing full-time for only one year! His morning ritual is reminding himself how much opportunity exists in the world and that he has the courage and talent to pursue it.
What you repeatedly tell yourself becomes what you think, and what you think becomes what you believe, and what you believe becomes what your mind sees. When the voice in your head tells your eyes opportunity is everywhere, your eyes will adjust to see it so you can then live it.
This is why the best athletes in the world pay huge money to coaches, trainers, and psychologists. In the heat of battle, they want to make sure their biggest competitor is their opponent—not the voice in their head. You’ve seen this on TV if you’ve ever watched a professional football player yell into the air what he’s going to do to the opposing team or a top-ranked tennis player talking himself up before he attempts a tiebreaking serve. This solo conversation moves you to a higher state of energy, focus, and performance.
If you want to find a better job, don’t tell yourself, “There are no good jobs left” or “No one will ever hire me.” Instead, tell yourself, “There are lots of good employers who are looking to hire someone just like me.” The more you say this to yourself, the more you believe it, the harder you will work to prove yourself right!
If finding the right person for a long-term relationship is a priority for you, don’t tell yourself, “All the good ones are taken” or “I’ll never find the right person.” Instead, tell yourself “The person I’ve been longing to meet is just waiting for me to introduce myself.” The more you say this, the more you believe it, the more people you will push yourself to meet!
Coach yourself for opportunity and your mind becomes a radar, locating what you need to move ahead. You’ll end up talking yourself straight into the future you desire.
To Coach Yourself into Opportunity:
1. Remind yourself every morning that you’re a smart, confident, powerful person who attracts opportunity like a high-powered magnet.
2. If you don’t see the opportunity you need, change your view. For example, if you want to start a business in your city but you can’t find the right location, drive to another city and see what opportunity exists there. The same goes if you can’t seem to find your true love in your local singles scene. Go to a new city or venue and meet new people there.
3. Whenever you are feeling trapped or stuck in a rut make a list of ten opportunities that you could pursue today.
Opportunity Radar Step 2: Apprentice Yourself—How Peer Pressure Can Improve Your Perception
You probably have felt the not-so-subtle pull of peer pressure at some point in your life. Peer pressure is powerful because it touches a very sensitive place: our human need to feel included, valued, and accepted by other people. As a result, you may change how you look, talk, or act just to make sure a particular group of people you want in your life keeps you in its circle.
Peer pressure is often viewed as a negative thing, but consider this: Used positively, it can actually be a powerfully motivating force. What if instead of surrounding yourself with people who encourage you to drink too much on weekends you surround yourself with people who push you to reach a higher level of success? In simple terms,