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2. Lazareth, Luther on the Christian Home, 19.
3. Ibid.
4. Ibid., 22–23.
5. Ibid., 25.
6. Ibid., 30.
7. John Piper and Justin Taylor, Sex and the Supremacy of Christ (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books, 2005), 228.
8. Lazareth, Luther on the Christian Home, 32.
9. Ibid.
10. Ibid., 32.
11. Ibid., 74.
12. Saint Aelred of Rievaulx, Spiritual Friendship (Collegeville, MN: Cistercian Publications, 2005).
13. Alan Loy McGinnis, The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care For (Minneapolis: Augsburg Fortress, 2004).
14. Dee Brestin, The Friendships of Women: The Beauty and Power of God’s Plan for Us (Colorado Springs: David C. Cook, 2008).
15. John Gottman and Nan Silver, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (New York: Three Rivers Press, 1999), 17.
16. Ibid., 19–20.
17. Augustine, Confessions 2.5.10.
18. Augustine, Confessions 4.8.13.
19. This concept (as well as some other big ideas in this chapter) is adopted from Steve Wilkins, Face to Face: Meditations on Friendship and Hospitality (Moscow, ID: Canon Press, 2002).
20. Charles Ray, Mrs. C. H. Spurgeon (A Biography of Susannah Spurgeon) (Pasadena, TX: Pilgrim Publications, 1905), 51–52.
21. Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison (New York: Simon and Schuster, 1997), 42–43.
22. The concept of shoulder-to-shoulder and face-to-face marriages came up in a conversation I had with pastor and author Douglas Wilson.
23. Alan Loy McGinnis, “When Tears Are a Gift from God,” in The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care For (Minneapolis: Augsburg Fortress, 2004), 122–30.
24. C. S. Lewis, The Four Loves (Orlando: Harcourt Brace, 1988), 71.
25. Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2000), 13.
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1. Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (Chicago: Moody Press, 1995).
2. W. Bradford Wilcox and Steven L. Nock, “What’s Love Got to Do with It? Equality, Equity, Commitment, and Women’s Marital Quality,” Social Forces 84, no. 3 (March 2006): 1321–45.
3. W. Bradford Wilcox, “Five Myths on Fathers and Families,” National Review, June 19, 2009, http://www.nationalreview.com/articles/227738/five-myths-fathers-and-family-w-bradford-wilcox.
4. Ibid.
5. Sally Lloyd-Jones, The Jesus Storybook Bible: Every Story Whispers His Name (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2007), 200.
6. “New Marriage and Divorce Statistics Released,” The Barna Group, March 31, 2008, http://www.barna.org/barna-update/article/15-familykids/42-new-marriage-and-divorce-statistics-released.
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7. W. Bradford Wilcox is director of the National Marriage Project and associate professor of sociology at the University of Virginia. Professor Wilcox is also a member of the James Madison Society at Princeton University. Wilcox’s research focuses on marriage and cohabitation, and on the ways religion, gender, and children influence the quality and stability of American family life. He has published articles on marriage, cohabitation, parenting, and fatherhood in the American Sociological Review, Social Forces, the Journal of Marriage and Family, and the Journal for the Scientific Study of Religion. His first book, Soft Patriarchs, New Men: How Christianity Shapes Fathers and Husbands (Univ. of Chicago Press, 2004), examines the ways the religious beliefs and practices of American Protestant men influence their approach to parenting, household labor, and marriage. Professor Wilcox has received the following two awards from the American Sociological Association Religion Section for his research: the Best Graduate Paper Award and the Best Article Award (with Brian Steensland et al.). His research has also been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post, USA Today, the Boston Globe, the Los Angeles Times,