Seven habits of highly effective people - Stephen R. Covey [77]
As we went down the list, job by job, it was soon evident that Mom and Dad had more than sixty-hour work weeks. With that paradigm in mind, some of the other jobs took on a more proper perspective.
My seven-year-old son, Stephen, volunteered to take care of the yard. Before I actually gave him a job, I began a thorough training process. I wanted him to have a clear picture in his mind of what a well-cared-for yard was like, so I took him next door to our neighbor's.
"Look, son," I said. "See how our neighbor's yard is green and clean? That's what we're after: green and clean. Now come look at our yard. See the mixed colors? That's not it; that's not green. Green and clean is what we want. Now how you get it green is up to you. You're free to do it any way you want, except paint it. But I'll tell you how I'd do it if it were up to me."
"How would you do it, Dad?"
"I'd turn on the sprinklers. But you may want to use buckets or a hose. It makes no difference to me. All we care about is that the color is green. Okay?"
"Okay."
"Now let's talk about 'clean,' Son. Clean means no messes around --no paper, strings, bones, sticks, or anything that messes up the place. I'll tell you what let's do. Let's just clean up half of the yard right now and look at the difference."
So we got out two paper sacks and picked up one side of the yard. "Now look at this side. Look at the other side. See the difference? That's called clean."
"Wait!" he called. "I see some paper behind that bush!"
"Oh, good! I didn't notice that newspaper back there. You have good eyes, Son."
"Now before you decide whether or not you're going to take the job, let me tell you a few more things. Because when you take the job, I don't do it anymore. It's your job. It's called a stewardship. Stewardship means 'a job with a trust.' I trust you to do the job, to get it done. Now who's going to be your boss?"
"You, Dad?"
"No, not me. You're the boss. You boss yourself. How do you like Mom and Dad nagging you all the time?"
"I don't."
"We don't like doing it either. It sometimes causes a bad feeling doesn't it? So you boss yourself. Now, guess who your helper is."
"Who?"
"I am," I said. "You boss me."
"I do?"
"That's right. But my time to help is limited. Sometimes I'm away. But when I'm here, you tell me how I can help. I'll do anything you want me to do."
"Okay!"
"Now guess who judges you."
"Who?"
"You judge yourself."
"I do?"
"That's right. Twice a week the two of us will walk around the yard and you can show me how it's coming. How are you going to judge?"
"Green and clean."
"Right!"
I trained him with those two words for two weeks before I felt he was ready to take the job. Finally, the big day came.
"Is it a deal, Son?"
"It's a deal."
"What's the job?"
"Green and clean."
"What's green?"
He looked at our yard, which was beginning to look better. Then he pointed next door. "That's the color of his yard."
"What's clean?"
"No messes."
"Who's the boss?"
"I am."
"Who's your helper?"
"You are, when you have time."
"Who's the judge?"
"I am. We'll walk around two times a week and I can show you how it's coming."
"And what will we look for?"
"Green and clean."
At that time I didn't mention an allowance. But I wouldn't hesitate to attach an allowance to such a stewardship.
Two weeks and two words. I thought he was ready.
It was Saturday. And he did nothing. Sunday...nothing. Monday...nothing. As I pulled out of the driveway on my way to work on Tuesday, I looked at the yellow, cluttered yard and the hot July sun on its way up. "Surely he'll do it today," I thought. I could rationalize Saturday because that was the day we made the agreement. I could rationalize Sunday; Sunday was for other things. But I couldn't rationalize Monday. And now it was Tuesday. Certainly he'd do it today. It was summertime. What else did he have to do?
All day I could hardly wait to return home to see what happened. As I rounded the corner, I was met with