Supercoach - Michael Neill [7]
When people first learn the principles of creating effortless, happy success and begin to put them into practice, the results they produce (and the way in which they produce them) can be quite startling. Customers and clients appear out of nowhere. Business opportunities show up “out of the blue.” Relationship miracles occur, and seemingly insurmountable problems simply dissolve without ever being addressed directly.
At this stage, people often go back and forth between being thrilled with the way that their lives are unfolding and terrified that “the magic will stop working” and they’ll go right back to how things were before we started.
One day a client explained this feeling to me by saying, “It’s like I’m driving my daddy’s Ferrari—it’s incredibly fun, and I’m really moving forward, but every time I start to feel that I’m going too fast, I slam on the brakes because I’m terrified of crashing the car!”
My explanation for this is simple:
Traditional success models are all about doing;
creating effortless success is all about being.
It’s easy to track the cause and effect with a doingbased model—the more you do, the better the result. But in creating effortless success, you do less and achieve more. People often get uncomfortable in this stage because they haven’t yet seen the connection between how they’re being in the world and the results they’re producing.
Amazing things happen at first, but the results begin to diminish over time. It seems as though things aren’t working as well as they used to, or that the “magic” only works on the small stuff.
In some cases, the discomfort can get so, well, uncomfortable that people would rather go back to doing things the way they used to. Even though it’s harder and less sustainable, at least it makes sense to them—at least they feel they have some control.
But for those people who stick with it, there’s a third stage—the most wonderful stage of all. . . .
Stage 3: Owning the Garage
At some point, people understand that creating effortless success isn’t magic (although it certainly is magical)—it’s the natural result of approaching life from a place of profound well-being, listening for the inner call, and following it wherever it may lead.
In this stage, you realize it’s not your daddy’s Ferrari; it’s yours—and that it’s just one of the wonderful cars you have in your garage. There’s no fear that “it will stop working” because you realize that “it” never worked— the power to create the life you wanted to live was inside you right from the very beginning.
What seems to facilitate this transition is a new level of understanding of how it all works—an insight or series of insights into what’s really going on. And whether that understanding is triggered by a coach, a book, a seminar, or even a casual comment by a friend, once you really see it, you can never lose it. Because the realization comes from inside you, it’s yours to keep.
So let’s look directly at you for a moment. Which stage of development does it seem like you’re currently at?
Are you:
• Struggling to move forward? Moving forward by struggling? (Stage 1)
• Experiencing wonderful results and even seeming miracles but secretly wondering when the magic is going to stop, when the batteries are going to run out, or how you’ll ever be able to apply this to “the big stuff” in your life? (Stage 2)
• Living life as a creator, at peace in yourself (mostly!) and knowing that you have the power within you to create whatever it is you most want to see in the world? (Stage 3)
Wherever you currently are, you can use the ten sessions in this book to assist with your transition—either from struggle to ease or from ease to peace. As you set your direction, stay with your good feelings, and listen for the whispers of wisdom, you’ll be amazed by how easy that transition will be.
Your journey begins just as soon as you turn this page. . . .
SESSION ONE
The Art and Science
of Make-Believe
“‘There’s no use trying,’ said Alice:
‘one can’t believe impossible things.’