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It is designed for trivial efficiency, always, everywhere, with everyone. . . . One thing you never do in Globish is tell a joke.

Guidelines include: Repeat yourself, avoid metaphors and colorful expressions, and keep sentences short. However, with so few words to play with, this isn’t always possible (rather than “siblings” you must say “the other children of my mother and father”). Conversation friendly it is not.

So much of communication transcends language that conversation’s telepathy—seeing behind screens; hearing what is told, not what is said—is invaluable. Friendships flower from such tiny prompts; the twitch of a mouth, a shared glance—all the unsaid, perhaps unsayable things. Henry James wrote:

Small children have many more perceptions than they have terms to translate them; their vision is at any moment much richer, their apprehension even constantly stronger, than their prompt, their at all producible, vocabulary.

It’s true of us all. But even remote encounters make life better.

One day I called my bank to check a credit. A singsong voice said it had arrived, then perhaps she asked what the money was for; anyway, somehow we began talking about books and exchanged recommendations. I asked where she was based and she said Wales.

“Out of the window I can only see green. Nothing else. We’re surrounded by trees,” she said. “Where are you?”

I described my London street, said how lucky she was.

“Yes, it’s beautiful.” She sighed. “But it’s blooming boring. That’s why I read.”

And we laughed.

In 1956, Dorothy Parker said:“Civilization is coming to an end, you understand.”

But ever since it was thought of, civilization has been failing: that is why we work at it.

Conversation’s finer points may be lost without our world tottering. Still, as communication, it is unimprovable. Of all arts the oldest and most captivating, it is also the easiest, free to all. As prices soar, and time shrinks, and space compacts, it is one luxury that costs nothing. Protect it, prioritize it, and reap the wealth of a companionable, convivial life.

Let conversation bring you the world.

P.S.

Are you fond of farewells? Is the person with you rather less so?

Shoving to the exit, or dawdling, a hint of other business hanging like a bad smell, is awkward. But there are gentle ways to usher conversation to its close.

First, choose a line or topic that will suggest this is the end, my friend:

Arrangements: Talk of the Next rings the knell for Now.

Any statement starting “Finally,” “Lastly”: Suggests an agenda is nigh complete.

Troubles: Having plumbed the depths, re-ascending to froth is somehow psychologically impossible.

Satisfied customer: A labeling comment to convey a job has been ticked off the list: “Well, I just wanted to check everything was okay.”

Farewell by implication: Pre-goodbye goodbyes: passing regards to the wife, etc. (Further reason to remember the personal details of time-guzzling clients and employees.)

Past tense: To kill the Now without committing to future encounters, say “It was great seeing you again,” “This was fun.” Or ask, “Was there anything else?” “Now what did I mean to tell you? No, no, it’s gone.”

Time’s wingèd chariot hurrying near: That oh-so-pressing world you must be getting on with, or the missus will kill you, or the shops will have run out of Christmas trees, or the kids will be starving . . .

Rescue remedy: Is a loved one being mumbled in the maw of a bore? Are you tired? Be direct without offending the third party by implying that your loved one is reluctant to go, but is inadvertently imposing on you.

“Dear one, we must leave now”; “I’m sorry, but I’m going to have to drag you off—early start”; “The babysitter?”; or this treat, overheard: “David, you’re liable to capsize any moment!”

Mustn’t keep you: To suggest that you’re halting the other person’s day is polite, but be warned, use repeatedly and it gains a tinct of condescension (so you’re busy: so say so).

Now an exchange