Being Kendra_ Cribs, Cocktails, and Getting My Sexy Back - Kendra Wilkinson [48]
Thankfully we got out of our slump, which came naturally as I began to work out more and, of course, when I finally got the weight off. We’re now back to two to three times a week. Are you shocked to hear I have sex only a couple of times a week? That’s the perfect amount for us.
I’m so open when it comes to talking about sex because it’s natural. It’s just like farting, we all do it. Anything that has to do with nature I don’t hold back. We all have sex; why not talk about it and compare and ask questions? I’m also a huge believer in getting it on when you need to get it on.
I’m all about sex in a car and spontaneous places. I’m all about sex in public as long as you know that no one’s watching, but if you feel like one eye is on you then I don’t think it’s okay. I wouldn’t like it if people watched me like that. I’m not an exhibitionist, though some people get off on stuff like that.
The craziest place that Hank and I ever had sex was on a Jet Ski in Cabo in the middle of the ocean. We kind of parted from our friends a little bit and I was in the front of the Jet Ski and he was in the back. I was driving and we just stood up and did it. There was something just so hot about us in our bathing suits, all wet, and it was sunny out and we were pressed up against each other and I just wanted Hank right then and there. No one was around, so why not? We were far out, so we knew no one was watching. It was great, because at the same time we were Jet Skiing we were having amazing sex. The bumps from the waves were just making it ten times better. The wind was flying through my hair, Hank was really getting into it, the sun was on me, and I was flying on the Jet Ski! When I hit the gas, the motor (Hank’s and the Jet Ski’s) really got going. Sun glistening, salt water splashing—I was in heaven! Public sex when no one is watching is awesome. You get such a rush because you know you are doing something against the rules and you need to hurry before you get caught. It’s thrilling to know that you could get caught at any moment.
That said, sex in a bed is so damn boring. I try to avoid the bed as much as possible. Why limit yourself? The bed is the bed, it’s where you sleep and read. Would you exercise in bed? No. So I try not to have sex there; it’s just not an exciting place to be. If you have nowhere else then it’s fine, but most people should be able to come up with other, more exciting places. A chair by the bed, a desk, up against the wall, anything other than the bed works. On the counter in the kitchen is a great place. I think anything in your house that you can sit on or stand against is fair game. You have to visualize yourself everywhere in your house and say, “Can I have sex there?” On the toilet, in the closet, on a table, in the shower, in the bath. Every place will be a new experience. There are so many different angles that you could be reaching depending on where you are sitting or how you are positioned, and it feels so much better. Deeper, longer, harder—you get so much more out of sex not being in bed. Think of it like a car; would you rather ride in a Ferrari or ride in an Oldsmobile? That’s the difference. The bed is an Oldsmobile. Most people are missing out on the Ferrari! It’s about the fun and the experience. You shouldn’t be concentrating on just up and down, up and down, up and down. Sex is more than up and down. Basically, if you are in my house, there’s a very good chance that wherever you are sitting or standing, we’ve had sex there. Sorry! (Luckily I’m obsessed with cleaning and disinfecting, so don’t worry.)
On the set of DWTS. Hmmm . . . wonder why I’m smiling?
Hank and I had sex once in the trailer in the back of the studio lot during Dancing with the Stars. We weren’t ashamed; we were horny! We were just like, “Why not have sex in our trailer right now? You only live once!” We hadn’t spent a lot of time together and were crazy busy, but I was all worked up from grinding