Being Kendra_ Cribs, Cocktails, and Getting My Sexy Back - Kendra Wilkinson [50]
Louis, my dance partner, understands sex and, being a dancer, I would think he has sex on his brain all the time. And as a dancer, he really understands a woman’s body. He is always talking about the inside of a woman’s thigh. He knows all of the sexy turn-on spots. If you watch Dancing with the Stars, it’s a very sexy show and a lot of the dancing is designed to be sexual. Louis is always talking about posture and standing up straight and having confidence. He says that when a woman is pigeon-toed, you don’t get to see the inside of her thigh, so it’s kind of a turnoff and she doesn’t give off any vibes of sex. But when her leg is slightly out—not too much, but when your inner thigh is showing just slightly—a man will read “sex” all over that. Because he’s seeing the inside of her thigh, an area he’s not used to normally getting a peek at, a guy will be instantly turned on. I thought I knew so much about sex, but I didn’t really know anything. After talking to someone like Louis who understands seduction and chemistry, I’m taking what I learn from dance and bringing it home, and it’s made my sex life even better. I feel so much more confident and better in bed now. I thought I was good before, but now I’m a champ!
One thing I’ve always known with regard to sex is what my man wants. There’s nothing sexier than confidence and knowing exactly what your partner wants. Hank loves it when I wear little booty exercise shorts. Of course, he doesn’t mind seeing me in lingerie, but he prefers when I’m being myself. Even in bed he loves me wearing a sports bra with little booty shorts on and my socks pulled up high. That’s his fantasy, so I give it to him. When Hank first met me I was the “sporty” one of all of Hef’s girls. And to this day he still loves that look on me. So when I want to give him what he wants, I wear a sports bra! It’s very easy to fall into the habit of just getting naked for sex. But I like to I mix it up and throw on the fantasy costume that gets Hank all worked up. It’s better than asking for it.
You probably think Hank and I are pretty kinky, but other than sometimes having sex in places other than our home and adding in the occasional mirror and outfit, we’re pretty much just like any other couple. There’s a certain freedom in being in a loving, committed marriage. We love having sex, and while we are willing to try a lot of different things, we do have our limits. One thing we don’t do is videotape our sex . . . yet. But we will. I’m not going to stop doing that because some asshole a few years back taped me and then sold the tape to the world once I became famous. The sex tape represented a really tough time in my life, but it didn’t finish me. That motherfucker was probably thinking, “I ruined her life,” and felt powerful for a minute. But I’m not allowing that to ruin my life or my relationship. Right after the sex tape came out, my first reaction was to act and look more conservative as a way to offset it or show I was different now. I thought I’d have to be a prude, but life goes on. You cannot stop your life because someone is trying to sabotage your success.
I’m not going to allow some asshole to ruin my sex life with my husband. If I want to press “record,” I’m going to press “record.” Hank and I talk about that all the time actually. Of course, we haven’t done that yet because it was traumatizing, but when we are ready, we’ll do it. I think we have to be in our own element and we never did it before because we were in an apartment or a hotel or traveling