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37 Best friends allow us to try on new roles Terri Apter and Ruthellen Josselson, Best Friends: The Pleasures and Perils of Girls’ and Women’s Friendships, (New York: Three Rivers Press, 1999), xii.
37 Irrespective of a woman’s personality Meliksah Demir and Lesley A. Weitkamp, Journal of Happiness Studies (2007), 8:181-211, 187.
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39 A bosom friend Helen Exley, Friendship Quotations (Quotation Books) (Chicago: Helen Exley Giftbooks, 1992).
43 un’amica stretta Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia. (New York: Penguin Books, 2006, 57.
43 incorporate only positive attributes Lillian B. Rubin, Just Friends: The Role of Friendship in Our Lives (New York: Harper Perennial, 1986), 7.
44 this usually isn’t the case Liz Spencer and Ray Pahl, Rethinking Friendship: Hidden Solidarities Today (New York: Princeton University Press, 2006), 31.
49 a positive developmental force Apter & Josselson, 63.
49 two types of readers Personal Interview with Jeffrey Zaslow, 4/29/09.
49 drop out of cliques William Damon, Richard M. Lerner, Nancy Eisenberg, The Handbook of Child Psychology: Social, Emotional, and Personality Development, ed. Nancy Eisenberg, (New York: John Wiley and Sons, 2006) 1022
49 friendships may enhance your prospects for happiness Published 4 December 2008, doi:10.1136/bmj.a2338, BMJ 2008;337:a2338, Dynamic spread of happiness in a large social network: longitudinal analysis over 20 years in the Framingham Heart Study, http://www.bmj.com/cgi/content/full/337/dec04_2/a2338 (accessed June 2, 2009).
49 as young women mature Lillian Rubin, 113.
49 Amish Quilting Circles America’s quilting history, http://www.womenfolk.com/quilting_history/amish.htm, (accessed June 6, 2009).
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51 One who looks for a friend without faults Helen Exley, Friendship Quotations (Quotation Books) (Chicago: Helen Exley Giftbooks, 1992).
59 Sometimes you put out your hand Personal email interview with Anne Roiphe, 9/18/08.
72 problem of co-rumination Rose AJ, Carlson W and Waller EM, Prospective Associations of Co-Rumination with Friendship and Emotional Adjustment: Considering the Socioemotional Trade-Offs of Co-Rumination, Developmental Psychology, 2007, Vol. 43, No. 4, 1019- 1031. Also, University of Missouri Press Release, July 16, 2007, Girls who complain about their problems at greater risk of developing anxiety and depression, says MU researcher
84 The Sopranos “Mergers and Acquisitions,” The Sopranos, Episode 47, Dan Attias, HBO. Aired November 3, 2002.
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87 Men kick friendship Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Locked rooms and open doors, Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, 1974, Original from the University of Michigan digitized Mar 10, 2008, 7.
107 forgiveness is good for your health “Learning to Forgive May Improve Well-Being,” Mayo Clinic Women’s Healthsource, January 2, 2008, http://www.mayoclinic.org/news2008-mchi/4405.html (accessed June 2, 2009).
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109 What do we live for Helen Exley, Friendship Quotations (Quotation Books) (Chicago: Helen Exley Giftbooks, 1992).
110 the term “toxic friend” Florence Isaacs, Toxic Friendships, (New York: William Morrow and Company, 1999) 16.
130 friendship killers personal email interview with Florence Isaacs, August 26, 2007.
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139 “Old friends… The Country of the Pointed Fir (Boston: Houghton and Mifflin, 1896, 97)
144 shrunk markedly J. Miller McPherson, Lynn Smith-Lovin, and Matthew E. Brashears, “Social Isolation in America: Changes in Core Discussion Networks over Two Decades,” American Sociological Review 71 (2006): 353-375.
144 no close confidants McPherson, J. Miller, Lynn Smith-Lovin, and Matthew E. Brashears, 366.
146 friendship patterns Andrew M. Ledbetter, Em Griffin, and Glenn G. Sparks, “Forecasting ‘friends forever’: A longitudinal investigation of sustained closeness between best friends,” Personal Relationships 14 (2007): 343-350.
146 cautionary note “Study Shows What Makes College Buddies Lifelong Friends,