Blow Him Away_ How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex - Marcy Michaels [3]
You may think you know everything you need to about oral sex, and that there's nothing a guide could tell you that you can't figure out for yourself. As for most guides out there, you're right. The majority of books about sex either recycle old material, or in their hunt for novelty come up with positions more suited for Gumby and Pokey than for you and your partner. But few of them prescribe the single ingredient that is widely needed: tongue and lip exercises.
Here you have the fruits of an entire field of study, developed by experts and researchers for many years, recontextualized and applied to oral sex for the first time. And it's only logical: out of all of the available specialists, wouldn't you want a doctor of the mouth to help you or your partner to perform oral sex?
In my practice as a speech pathologist, I've seen that what most people need is basic training. They need to strengthen and energize their mouths, lips, and throats so that they can perform any and all techniques with absolute comfort. Unless you're strong at your base, sophisticated techniques will never help you. In fact, students of sexual technique can (and have) hurt themselves or their partners while trying out new things. Giving your partner the best oral sex of their life isn't going to happen with just a couple of new techniques. You have to establish your muscular strength, refine your control, and then you can employ the moan-making, sheet-ripping, multiple-orgasm-generating techniques.
WHY SPEECH THERAPY IS
OLYMPIC TRAINING FOR ORAL SEX
Thirty years ago, when I started practicing speech therapy, I would have laughed at the idea of me—or anyone else in my industry—writing an oral sex guide. Speech therapy belongs with dentists, orthodontists, and speech analysts, not Dr. Ruth, sex therapy, and dental dams . . . right? While it's perfectly true that most branches of speech therapy have nothing to do with oral sex, and while there may be a practitioner or two out there who's never even had oral sex, speech therapy nonetheless has designed techniques that will blow your partner's socks off (if they're still wearing them). So don't go swinging the gavel too soon. You can't judge a field of study by its unerotic exterior. The quality of oral sex increases so rapidly when these techniques are applied that they almost seem better for sex than they are for speech.
But you also can't chalk up these oral sex results to common speech therapy. Practiced at its most general, the entire field couldn't help you get a single sigh out of your lover. Except perhaps from boredom. Lots of speech therapy involves repeating monosyllables from a droning tape with a monitoring instructor. Great way to spend the afternoon, right? I didn't think so, either. In addition to being a speech pathologist, I was also trained as a myofunctional (literally, “muscle-function”) therapist. Myofunctional therapy is the speech specialization that most directly applies to oral sex. In myofunctional therapy, muscles are gods: they can push and pull teeth around at their whim. They can bring a bone out of alignment, or they can bring one into alignment. It all depends on how the muscle has been trained to interact with other bodily systems. In the fight between muscle and bone (and these fights are taking place all over your body), muscles always win. They have an agency that no other part of the body can lay claim to. There's a reason people say they were “muscled” into doing something (although being “boned” has pretty straightforward connotations of its own).
You may think that your tongue is a soft, pink love muscle that simply rests in your mouth until you need it to chew or speak or get sexy.