Ethical Slut - Dossie Easton [138]
American Social Health Association (www.ashastd.org). For the latest information about safer sex and sexually transmitted diseases, check out this website.
MANAGING CONFLICT
The Intimate Enemy: How to Fight Fair in Love and Marriage, George R. Bach and Peter Wyden (Morrow, 1968). The concept of “fair fighting” was first expounded by Dr. Bach in this wonderful book. Published forty years ago, the book is somewhat outdated, but the material on communication, and detailed descriptions of constructive ways to share your anger with a partner, is priceless—this book is a classic.
Difficult Conversations, Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen, and Roger Fisher (Penguin, 2000). How to discuss the uncomfortable—not just with your lover(s) but with anyone.
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, Marshall B. Rosenberg and Arun Gandhi (Puddledancer Press, 2003). One of the best contemporary books for dealing with communications skills in conflict of all sorts.
Poly-Friendly Professionals (www.polychromatic.com/pfp). Provides lists of counselors, attorneys, therapists, physicians, and other professionals who are familiar and nonjudgmental about alternative relationship structures.
Kink-Aware Professionals (www.ncsfreedom.org/kap). Lists professionals (doctors, attorneys, therapists, bodyworkers, and more) who are nonjudgmental about BDSM, leather, kink, fetish, and other alternative modes of sexual expression.
LEGAL AND SOCIAL ISSUES
A Legal Guide for Lesbian and Gay Couples (Nolo, 2007). A useful book with a CD-ROM that can help you set up whatever legal underpinnings your relationships require.
Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples (Nolo, 2008). Another useful resource with an accompanying CD-ROM.
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (www.ncsfreedom.org) and the Woodhull Foundation (www.woodhullfoundation.org). Information about protecting your legal and political rights as a practitioner of a nontraditional sexual lifestyle. Please support them with your charitable donations.
About the Authors
DOSSIE EASTON is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in alternative sexualities and relationships, with twenty years of experience counseling open relationships. She is the author of four other books. She has been an ethical slut since 1969.
Visit www.dossieeaston.com.
JANET W. HARDY is the author of more than 10 books and founder of Greenery Press, a San Francisco Bay Area book publisher specializing in sexually adventurous books. She has an MFA in creative writing from St. Mary’s College. She swore off monogamy in 1987. Visit www.janetwhardy.com.
Dossie and Janet have authored several other books, available from Greenery Press.
When Someone You Love Is Kinky is for the friends, family, coworkers, and partners of anyone who’s involved in an alternative sexuality like S/M, D/S, leather, crossdressing, or fetish. (Note: Janet wrote this book under her former pen name, “Catherine A. Liszt.”) The New Bottoming Book and The New Topping Book show how to bring all your power, sexiness, and smarts to your role as a BDSM bottom or top.
Radical Ecstasy: SM Journeys to Transcendence chronicles Dossie’s and Janet’s individual and mutual experiences with altered states of consciousness during BDSM play and offers some ideas drawn from tantra and other practices about how to journey there yourself.
Janet is also the author of several other books: The Sexually Dominant Woman and The Compleat Spanker (both written as “Lady Green”), The Toybag Guide to Canes and Caning, Twenty-First Century Kinky-Crafts, and (with Dr. Charles Moser) Sex Disasters … And How to Survive Them.
Table of Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Contents
Acknowledgments
Part One - Welcome
1. Who Is an Ethical Slut?
2. Myths and Realities
3. Our Beliefs
4. Slut Styles
5. Battling Sex Negativity
6. Infinite Possibilities
Part Two - The Practice of Sluthood