Focus - Leo Babauta [6]
Have a disconnect time each day. It's like setting office hours if you're a professor -- you set the times that work best for you, and you can even let people know about these times. Let's say you are disconnected from 8-10 a.m. each day, or 4-5 p.m., or even anytime after 2 p.m. Tell people your policy, so they know you won't be available for email or IM. And use this time to create.
Work somewhere without a connection. For me, this might be the public library -- while it has computers with Internet access, there's no wireless in my library. Some coffeeshops don't have wireless connection. Some of you might have to look for a good building that's quiet but doesn't have free wireless. Go to this disconnected zone ready to create, or perhaps just to relax and enjoy the quiet.
Get outside. Leave your devices behind and go for a walk, or a run, or a bike ride. Enjoy nature. Watch a sunset, go to the beach or a lake or river or forest. Take your child or spouse or friend. Recharge your batteries, reflect and contemplate.
Leave your mobile device behind, or shut it off. When you're on the go, you don't always need to be connected. Sure, the iPhone and Android and Blackberry are cool, but they just feed our addictions, they make the problem worse than ever. If you're driving, shut off your device. If you're meeting with someone, turn off the device so you can focus on that person completely. If you're out with your family or friends and not working... leave the device at home. You don't need this personal time to be interrupted by work or your impulse to check on things.
Use blocking software. If you're doing work on the computer, you can use various types of software to shut yourself off from the Internet, or at least from the most distracting portions of it. For example, you can use software to block your web email, Twitter, favorite news sites, favorite blogs, and so on -- whatever your worst distractions are, you can block them selectively. Or block all Internet browsing. We'll talk more about software in a later chapter on tools.
Alternate connection and disconnection. There are any number of variations on this theme, but let's say you disconnected for 20 minutes, then connected for a maximum of 10 minutes, and kept alternating in those intervals. Or you work disconnected for 45 minutes and connect for 15 minutes. You get the idea -- it's almost as if the connected period is a reward for doing good, focused work.
Disconnect away from work. A good policy is to leave your work behind, when you're done with work, and a better policy is to stay disconnected during that time, or work and browsing will creep into the rest of your life. Draw a line in the sand, and say, "After 5 p.m. (or whatever), I won't be connected, I'll focus on my family and my other interests."
how to beat the connection addiction
Being connected is an addiction -- and it's one that can be extremely hard to beat. Trust me, I struggle with it myself, all the time.
Like any addiction, connection has very quick positive reinforcements and only long-term negative consequences. When you take drugs or eat junk food, for example, you get instant pleasure but the negative health effects aren't felt until much, much later, when you're already firmly addicted. So you get the positive reinforcement immediately, each time you do the addictive activity such as eating sweets or taking drugs, giving you a pleasure rush and making you want to do the activity again, as soon as possible. You get the positive reinforcement again, and again, and again, in a constant cycle of positive reinforcement, and soon you're addicted.
Connection works the same way. When we check email and get a new message, it's a little bit of validation that we're worthy of someone else's attention -- we get a little ego boost, a little pleasure from this. When we check Twitter or our feed reader and see something that grabs our attention, that's a positive reinforcement, a little bit