Meandering Mind - Eva Dillner [68]
Competition or cooperation?
How do you see the world? Do you believe in abundance, that there is more than enough for everybody to go around? Or do you believe in scarcity, that resources, money or jobs are limited and that there is not enough for everyone? Do you believe in competition or cooperation? Do you see your coworkers as threats to your career or as co-creators of something that is more than the sum of the parts?
Is your world one of free flow or restriction? Do you believe you can save yourself into prosperity? Of course you can't. This is one of the underlying reasons why so many corporations are failing today. Downsizing to slim a fat workforce may be useful once. Repeated downsizings to make the stock price go up are bound to fail in the long run. Stocks go up when your neighbor loses his job. Sooner or later it will be your turn.
How you look at yourself and others determines how you act in the world. Do you see your love interest as something to be won, someone to be yours, to belong only to you? Do you approach relationships and work from a have to have no matter what, or letting it come to you of its own free will?
I believe there is more than enough for everyone. I don't believe in competition. I don't believe in winners and losers. I believe there is space for everyone, there is love for everyone and there is work for everyone. If we listen to our Divine guidance, and allow Spirit to work through us, to show us our rightful place, we can't go wrong. It's when we covet that which does not belong to us, and scheme to get it, that all our troubles begin.
I love the writing of Florence Scovel Shinn and Emmet Fox. They explain so eloquently the principle of: that which belongs to us by Divine right, or by right of consciousness, is ours, we cannot lose it. It is guaranteed that we have it. We may not get what we think we want, but we always get what we need, when the time is right.
I've never understood the game of seduction. I don't understand the scheming, the hidden agendas, the lies and deception that are all part of that game. But then I learned, from a psychic and therapist, that seductive people are always hostile toward their partner.
In other words, seduction is the opposite of love. It's about anger that is not allowed to surface. It's about control. It's about manipulating the other person. It's about winning or losing. It's about one-upmanship, about showing who rules. It doesn't feel good.
Seduction is like a cat and mouse game. It's a hunt where you are chasing someone, you are hunting, you prey on the object of your seduction, see them as a trophy to be won or laid down. Once you catch it, you toy with it, torment it, just like a cat does with a mouse. What has love got to do with that?
Unearthing this tidbit of information, this jewel of insight, helps me understand some of the women who have been friends of mine. They would think nothing of seducing a man I was interested in. Not because they really wanted him, but only to show they could, or to make sure I would lose. With friends like that, who needs enemies?
It's been said that there really are only two basic emotions – love and fear. Perhaps it is more correct to say they are the underlying driver beneath any emotion. Whatever you feel, whatever you do, ask yourself if you are coming from love or fear. What is your underlying motivation?
If I want someone, I believe in being straight on. I like you. I am interested. I want to get to know you. If the feeling is mutual, wonderful, if it is not, it wasn't meant to be. If he isn't the