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1. See Patrick Carnes, Don’t Call It Love (MN: Gentle Press, 1991), 38ff.
2. Eric Griffin-Shelley, Sex and Love: Addiction, Treatment, and Recovery (Westport, CT: Praeger Publishers, 1997), 52.
3. Archibald D. Hart, The Sexual Man (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1994), 48–49.
4. Harold Leitenberg, Mark J. Detzer, and Debra Srebnik, “Gender Differences in Masturbation and the Relation of Masturbation Experience in Preadolescence and/or Early Adolescence to Sexual Behavior and Sexual Adjustment in Young Adulthood,” Archives of Sexual Behavior 22 (April 1993): 87–98. Sample was 280 respondents from two “Introduction to Psychology” classes.
5. See Debby Herbenick et al., “Sexual Behavior in the United States: Results from a National Probability Sample of Men and Women Ages 14–94,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 7, suppl. 5 (October 2010): 255–65, doi: 10.1111/j.1743-6109.2010.02012.x.
6. Michael Reece et al., “Sexual Behaviors, Relationships, and Perceived Health Among Adult Men in the United States: Results from a National Probability Sample,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 7, suppl. 5 (October 2010): 291–304, doi: 10.1111/j.1743-6109.2010.02009.x.
7. Ibid.
8. Ibid.
9. Ibid.
10. Ibid.
11. Ibid.
12. See Herbenick et al., “Sexual Behaviors, Relationships, and Perceived Health Among Adult Women in the United States,” 277-900.
13. Ibid.
14. Ibid.
15. Ibid.
16. Ibid.
17. Ibid.
18. Ibid.
19. Ibid.
20. Ibid.
21. Robert B. Hughes and J. Carl Laney, Tyndale Concise Bible Commentary (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 2001), 250.
22. Joseph C. Dillow, Solomon on Sex (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1977), 27.
23. William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2009), 172.
24. Herbenick et al., “Sexual Behavior in the United States,” 255–65.
25. Ibid.
26. Herbenick et al., “Sexual Behaviors, Relationships, and Perceived Health Among Adult Women in the United States,” 277–90.
27. Ibid.
28. Reece et al., “Sexual Behaviors, Relationships, and Perceived Health Among Adult Men in the United States,” 291–304.
29. Ibid.
30. Dillow, Solomon on Sex, 27.
31. Marvin H. Pope, Song of Songs (New Haven, London: Yale University Press, 2008), 499. For more on the garden, see Shalom M. Paul (“A Lover’s Garden of Verse: Literal and Metaphorical Imagery in Ancient Near Eastern Love Poetry,” in Tehillah le-Moshe: Biblical and Judaic Studies in Honor of Moshe Greenberg, ed. Mordechai Cogan et al. [Winona Lake, IN: Eisenbrauns, 1997], 99–110), who comments that the garden “functions not only as a favorite assignation (with its esthetic and sensual delights and hideaways) for lovers’ trysts and afresco amour, but may simultaneously allude to female sexuality and fertility in general and to the pudenda in particular,” with examples from Sumerian, Akkadian, and Egyptian love poetry (100).
32. Tremper Longman III, Song of Songs: The New International Commentary on the Old Testament (Grand Rapids: Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 2001), 155.
33. Ibid., 195
34. Herbenick et al., “Sexual Behavior in the United States.” 255–65.
35. Ibid.
36. Ibid.
37. Herbenick et al., “Sexual Behaviors, Relationships, and Perceived Health Among Adult Women in the United States,” 277–90.
38. Ibid.
39. Reece et al., “Sexual Behaviors, Relationships, and Perceived Health Among Adult Men in the United States,” 291–304.
40. Ibid.
41. Ibid.
42. Thomas R. Schreiner, Forty Questions About Christians and Biblical Law (Grand Rapids, MI: Kregel, 2010), 67.
43. Ibid., 69.
44. Ibid., 67.
45. I have previously explored the topic of birth control in the sermon series Religion Saves (http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/religionsaves/birth-control) as well as in chapter 1 of my book based on that series, “Birth Control” in Religion Saves: And Nine Other Misconceptions (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2009), 15–44.
46. William R. Cutrer and Sandra L. Glahn, The Contraception Guidebook: Options, Risks, and Answers for