Real Marriage_ The Truth About Sex, Friendship, and Life Together - Mark Driscoll [122]
Chapter 9
1. This idea is borrowed from Joseph and Linda Dillow, Peter and Lorraine Pintus, Intimacy Ignited (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 2004).
2. C. J. Mahaney, Humility: True Greatness (Sisters, OR: Multnomah, 2005), 13.
3. John Gottman and Nan Silver, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (New York: Three Rivers Press, 1999), 4.
4. According to author Gary Thomas, during a lecture he gave at a retreat for Mars Hill Church elders and elders’ wives.
5. William Henry Lazareth, Luther on the Christian Home: An Application of the Social Ethics of the Reformation (Philadelphia: Muhlenberg Press, 1960), 226n82.
6. Ted L. Huston and Anita L. Vangelisti, “Socioemotional behavior and satisfaction in marital relationships: A longitudinal study,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 61, no. 5 (1991): 721–33.
7. This was calculated based on which group had the highest percentage in the “weekly” through “four times a week or more” categories. The findings reported here were calculated by a Docent researcher using publicly available data from the 2008 General Social Survey (GSS), accessible online here: http://www.norc.org/GSS+Website. Data were weighted appropriately.
8. See Edward O. Laumann et al., The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1994); and Edward O. Laumann, Robert T. Michael, and Gina Kolata, Sex in America: A Definitive Survey (New York: Warner Books, 1994).
9. Vaughn Call, Susan Sprecher, and Pepper Schwartz, “The Incidence and Frequency of Marital Sex in a National Sample,” Journal of Marriage and the Family 57, no. 3 (August 1995): 639–52, http://www.jstor.org/stable/353919.
10. Tara Parker-Pope, “When Sex Leaves the Marriage,” New York Times, June 3, 2009, http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/06/03/when-sex-leaves-the-marriage/.
11. Ibid.
12. Ibid.
13. Kathleen Deveny, ”We’re Not In the Mood,” Newsweek, June 30, 2003, http://www.newsweek.com/2003/06/29/we-re-not-in-the-mood.html.
14. Edmund S. Morgan, “The Puritans and Sex,” The New England Quarterly 15, no. 4 (December 1942): 593, http://classjump.com/Sateren/documents/6016350500.pdf.
15. Archibald D. Hart, Unmasking Male Depression (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2001).
16. Ibid., 38–41.
17. Ibid., 39–40.
18. Linda Carroll, “Men sleep better beside mate; women worse,” MSNBC.com, October 10, 2007, http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21091112/.
19. Not all of these are by Christians, and we do not agree with everything that these resources teach, but they are helpful when read with discernment: Douglas E. Rosenau, A Celebration of Sex (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2002); Lou Paget, How to Be a Great Lover (New York: Broadway Books, 1999); Lou Paget, Orgasms (New York: Broadway Books, 2004); Lou Paget, How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure (New York: Broadway Books, 2000); Ian Kerner, She Comes First (New York: HarperCollins, 2004); Kevin Leman, Sheet Music (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale, 2003); http://christiannymphos.org/; and http://www.sexualpositionsfree.com/.
20. Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only (Sisters, OR: Multnomah, 2004).
21. Shaunti Feldhahn, “Keeper of the Visual Rolodex,” in For Women Only, 109–35.
22. Daniel Akin, God on Sex (Nashville: Broadman and Holman, 2003), 213.
23. Joseph C. Dillow, Solomon on Sex (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1977), 133.
24. John G. Snaith, The New Century Bible Commentary: The Song of Songs (Grand Rapids: Wm. B. Eerdmans, 1993), 101.
25. Joseph and Linda Dillow, Peter and Lorraine Pintus, Intimacy Ignited (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 2004), 221.
26. Akin, God on Sex, 215.
27. Tremper Longman III, Song of Songs: The New International Commentary