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67. Ibid., 246.
Chapter 11
1. Wayne Cordeiro, Leading on Empty (Minneapolis: Bethany House, 2009); Archibald D. Hart, Adrenaline and Stress (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1995); and Archibald D. Hart, Unmasking Male Depression (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2001).
2. Cordeiro, Leading on Empty.
INDEX
A
abortion, 196, 197
abstinence, 116, 161
abuse, 74, 123–126, 168
friend sharing history of, 132
masks of abused person, 129–131
Adam and Eve, 107–108, 110
addiction, 140, 147, 179
adolescence, 42–43, 48
adrenaline, 180
adultery, 111
emotional, 25
Jesus on, 145
Alcorn, Randy, 196–197
Ambrose, 115
anal sex, 187–189
anger, 97, 129, 161
Arterburn, Stephen, 119
assault victim, 16
Augustine, 26, 115
authority, 46, 82
B
back-to-back marriage, 32
beauty, 109–110, 169
Bible
Genesis, 107, 182, 187–188
Deuteronomy, 202
Esther, 65
Job, 141
Psalms, 127
Proverbs, x, 27, 29, 38, 39, 41, 70,
74–75, 76, 79, 118, 146, 154, 211
Ecclesiastes, 35, 38, 40, 207
Song of Songs, 14, 17, 19, 26,
117, 119, 159, 171–175, 182–183,
185–186
Jeremiah, 35
Ezekiel, 111
Matthew, 139, 145
Mark, 156
Luke, 75, 123
Romans, 8, 30, 38, 67, 94, 111,
112, 122, 131, 189
1 Corinthians, 30, 42, 71, 100, 111,
153, 161, 177, 178
2 Corinthians, 13, 67, 127
Galatians, 30, 153–154
Ephesians, 56, 64, 65, 70, 81
Philippians, 38, 67, 75, 128, 158
1 Thessalonians, 153
1 Timothy, 141
Titus, 153
Hebrews, 141, 167, 170, 189–190
James, 67, 86, 135
1 Peter, 48, 49, 75
1 John, 137, 153
Revelation, 3
agreeing on message of, 60–62
on covenant, 54
gift of, 7–8
on husband’s role, 62
reading, 72–73
Solomon, 114
on submission, 82–83
Bible study, 63
birth control, 119, 194–198
bitterness, 16, 94–100
Body Dismorphic Disorder (BDD), 200
Bonhoeffer, Dietrich, 28
boredom, 169
brain, and sex, 122
budget, 53
bullying, 45
Bundy, Ted, 147–148
C
Canadian Conference of Catholic
Bishops, 116
Carnes, Patrick, 179
Catholic Church
instruction on marital relations, 116
on singleness and celibacy, 20
cervical caps, 195
change, 40
identifying need for, 219–220
in repentance, 90
chauvinism, 45–46, 61
child pornography, 151
childhood sexual abuse, 180
children
birth out of wedlock, 52
harm from pornography, 150
serving and protecting, 136–137
choices, 126–129
Christianity, 4, 57
Chrysostom, 115
church, involvement in, 58–60
church plant, 10
Clement of Alexandria, 115
codependency, 75
comfort, sex for, 120
communication, 14, 73, 164
condom, 195
confession, 90, 137
conflict
in friendship, 25
reaction to, 86–87
conformity, 209
contempt, 87
contraceptive sponge, 195
contrition, in repentance, 90
control, 124
conversation with others, 168
Corinth, 177–178
cosmetic surgery, 198–200
“cougar” phenomenon, 151
counseling, xi–xii, 79–80
covenant love, 30
covenant marriage, 53–57
cowards, 46–47
creation, 37
creators, men as, 44
criticism, 87
curse, sex as, 107
cybersex, 200
D
date night, 36
daughters, fathers and, 151
defensiveness, 87
depression, 163–164
diaphragm, 195
disagreement
loud response to, 76
options for resolution, 78–79
respect in, 74–79
silence in, 74
disgrace, 125–126
dishonesty, in marriage, 12–13
disrespect, 67, 68
distrust, of women, 14
divorce, 59, 159
Dobson, James,