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domestic violence, 58
E
earning sex, 166
egalitarian marriage, 61
emotional abuse, 124–125
emotional adultery, 25
emotions, 45, 49–51
encouragement, respect in, 80–81
Erasmus of Rotterdam, 21
Esther, 65
expiation, 135
F
face-to-face marriage, 32–33
family, defining, 10–11
family planning, with prayer alone, 194
family responsibilities, 56–57
fatigue, 168
fears of wives, 49, 75, 77
feminism, 61
fight, 86
good, 100–101
finances, 51–53
Fishburne, Laurence, 144
foreplay, women’s need for, 165
forgiveness, 91–94
fornication, 9
Francis (Saint), 115
friendship, 23–27
Augustine on, 26
devoted, 38–40
enjoyment, 35–37
fruitfulness, 28–29
husbands and wives as, 24
intimacy, 32–34
of Luthers, 22
marital, 26–27
needed, 37–38
reciprocity, 29–32
sanctification, 40–41
fun, 35–36
G
God
and forgiveness, 91–92
love of, 30
as loving parent, 15
and marriage, 28
and pride, 157–158
“Golden Rule Christianity,” 57
Gottman, John, 86
Gouge, William, 118
grace, 19, 126
Greek worship, sexuality in, 112
Gregory of Nyssa, 115
Gregory the Great (pope), 116
gross, sex as, 114–118
H
Hart, Archibald, 163
head
husband as, 54–56, 64
Jesus as, 54
healthy relationships, and sex, 164
Henry, Matthew, 38
Hilgers, Thomas W., 197
Hinduism, 112
Holcomb, Justin, Rid of My Disguise,
125–126
Holy Spirit, 153
homosexual sex, 188
honoring wife, 49–53
House, Wayne, 115
human body, perspective on, 169
humility, 158
husband
authority of, 82
as head, 54–56, 64
husbands and wives, as friends, 24
I
idolatry, 111
independence, 209
initiating sexual relations, 166
innocence, 6
insecurity, 169
intentionality, 209
intimacy
after sex, 174–175
in friendship, 32–34
intrauterine device (IUD), 197
J
Jerome, 115
Jesus
on adultery, 145
friends of, 27
as head, 54
as High Priest, 190
masculinity of, 47–48
as servant, 157
and submission, 83–84
as tough and tender, 45
justice, forgiveness and, 93–94
L
Lane, Belden, 118
laughter, 35
Lewis, C.S., 34
life coach, 212
life, ways to live, 209
love
of God, 30
and Luther marriage, 21
love languages, 50
lovers, selfish vs. servant, 156–176
lust, 192
pornography and, 144–155
Luther, Katherine von Bora, 20–23
Luther, Martin, 19–23, 126, 161–162,
190
On Monastic Vows, 20
M
marital friendship, 26–27
marital happiness, 59
marriage
covenant, 53–57
dishonesty in, 12–13
egalitarian, 61
God and, 28, 108
last day of, 207
pain of, 11
roles in, 61–62
sex in Christian marriage, 161
theology of, 60
masturbation, 181–185
and pornography, 140–141
Mayer, John, 142
meals, 72
men
practical tips for husbands, 62–63
tough and tender, 44–48
transition from boys, 42
wife’s perspective, 48–53
menstrual sex, 189–192
methods, vs. principles, x
midlife crisis, 43
The Mirror Effect (Pinsky), 145–146
monotony, 169
morning-after pill, 197
mothers, working, 52–53
N
nagging, 81
naivety, 6
National Online Resource Center on
Violence Against Women, 146
natural birth control, 194
New Century Bible Commentary,
171–172
notebook for reverse engineering
planning, 212
O
Ocellus Lucanus, 115
oral contraceptives, 196
oral sex, 185–187
orgasm, 140, 165
Origen, 115
Orlund, Raymond C. Jr., 83
oxytocin, 141
P
peer pressure, 75
physical affection, 71–72
Pinsky, Drew, The Mirror Effect,
145–146
planning, 207. See also reverse
engineering
Plato, 114
pleasure
lack of, 168–169
sex for, 119
porn impotence, 154
pornography, 112–114, 139–155
being free of, 152–155
defining, 142–144
harm from, 148–150
lust and, 144–155
and masturbation, 140–141
prayer, 67, 71, 81, 84, 152, 213
premarital counseling, 13, 61
pride, 157
principles, vs. methods, x
priorities, 214
procreation, 115, 117, 119
prostitution, 112–114, 147, 149, 178
protection, sex for, 120
psychological abuse, 125
Puritans, 118
R
rape, 125, 230n4
reaction, 209
reciprocity, in friendship, 29–32
reconciliation, forgiveness and, 93
Redemption (Wilkerson), 135
religious background, and divorce, 60
repentance, 5, 14, 85, 88–90
respect, 47, 52
in counseling,