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defining, 66–73
in disagreement, 74–79
in encouragement, 80–81
hands of, 71–73
heads of, 67–69
hearts of, 69–71
methods, 73
starting process, 69
in submission, 81–85
responsibility, 43
reverse engineering, 207–220
principles, 211
questions, 213–220
rhythms, 213
Rid of My Disguise (Holcomb), 125–126
righteousness, 19
rituals, 36
role-playing, 192–193
Roman worship, sexuality in, 112
RU-486, 197
S
salvation, 7–8
sanctification, 40–41
Seattle, 10
self-control, 70
selfish lovers, 156–176
identifying patterns of, 165–167
reasons for, 167–169
selfishness, 158–159
servant lovers, 156–176
sex
as curse, 107
difficulties, 156
essentials, 108–109
frequency of, 161–163
as gift, 118–120
as god, 110–114
as God’s creation, 109
as gross, 114–118
and healthy relationships, 164
initiating, 166
in marriage, 9–10
procreation and, 115, 117
questions to evaluate, 178–179
and sin, 109
sex toys, 193
sexual abuse, 123–126
church mission to respond,
131–132
friend in need, 134–135
responding in love, 132–134
sexual addiction, 179–180
sexual assault, 125
marital, 201–203
sexual medication, 201
sexual sabotage, 166
shame, 12
shoulder-to-shoulder marriage, 32–33
silence, in disagreement, 74
sin, 4–5, 86, 88, 100
by Adam and Eve, 55, 110
of selfish lover, 167
and sex, 109
suffering from, 91
singleness, Catholic Church on, 20
slavery, addiction as, 179
sodomy, 187
Solomon, 114
spermicides, 195
Spurgeon, Charles Haddon, 28
stay-at-home dads, 53
Stoicism, 115
stonewalling, 87
stress, 208
stripping, 176
Struthers, William M., 154–155
Wired for Intimacy, 139–140
submission, respect in, 81–85
T
technology, 53
temptation, 170
Tertullian, 115, 190
testosterone, and male depression, 163
theology of marriage, 60
Thomas, Gary, 40
Thomas Aquinas, 115–116
timeliness, 160
trust, 10, 48–49
tubal ligation, 195
V
value, 82
vasectomy, 195
vasopressin, 141
Vazeille, Molly, 98
visual people, 170
Volf, Miroslav, 124
W
Welch, Ed, 75
Wesley, Charles, 97, 101–103
Wesley, John, 97–99
Westminster Confession of Faith,
190–191
Whately, William, 118
wife
fears of, 49
honoring, 49–53
respectful, 65–85
as umpire, 63–64
Wilcox, W. Bradford, 57, 225n7
Wilkerson, Mike, Redemption, 135
wisdom, 38
Wolf, Naomi, 148–149
women, distrust of, 14
women’s romance novels, 145
work spouse, 85
working mothers, 52–53
worship
at home, 62
sexuality in Greek and Roman, 112
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