Seven habits of highly effective people - Stephen R. Covey [147]
These are alternative ways you may tend to perceive other areas of your lif
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If your center is Spouse...
SPOUSE: The main source of need satisfaction.
FAMILY: Good in its place. Less important. A common project.
MONEY: Necessary to properly take care of spouse.
WORK: Necessary to earn money to care for spouse.
POSSESSIONS: Means to bless, impress, or manipulate.
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If your center is Family...
SPOUSE: Part of the family.
FAMILY: The highest priority.
MONEY: Family economic support.
WORK: A means to an end.
POSSESSIONS: Family comfort and opportunities.
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If your center is Money...
SPOUSE: Asset or liability in acquiring money.
FAMILY: Economic drain.
MONEY: Source of security and fulfillment.
WORK: Necessary to the acquisition of money.
POSSESSIONS: Evidence of economic success.
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If your center is Work...
SPOUSE: Help or hindrance in work.
FAMILY: Help or interruption to work. People to instruct in work ethic. MONEY: Of secondary importance. Evidence of hard work.
WORK: Main source of fulfillment and satisfaction. Highest ethic.
POSSESSIONS: Tools to increase work effectiveness. Fruits, badge of work.
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If your center is Possessions...
SPOUSE: Main possession. Assistant in acquiring possessions.
FAMILY: Possession to use, exploit, dominate, smother, control. Showcase. MONEY: Key to increasing possessions. Another possession to control. WORK: Opportunity to possess status, authority, recognition.
POSSESSIONS: Status symbols.
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If your center is Pleasure...
SPOUSE: Companion in fun and pleasure or obstacle to it.
FAMILY: Vehicle or interference.
MONEY: Means to increase opportunities for pleasure.
WORK: Means to an end. "Fun" work OK.
POSSESSIONS: Objects of fun. Means to more fun.
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If your center is A Friend or Friends...
SPOUSE: Possible friend or possible competitor. Social status symbol. FAMILY: Friends or obstacle to developing friendships.
MONEY: Source of economic and social good.
WORK: Social opportunity.
POSSESSIONS: Means of buying friendship. Means of entertaining or providing social pleasure. These are alternative ways you may tend you perceive other areas of your life
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If your center is Spouse...
PLEASURE: Mutual, unifying activity or unimportant.
FRIENDS: Spouse is best or only friend. Only friends are "our" friends. ENEMIES: Spouse is my defender, or common enemy provides source of marriage definition. CHURCH: Activity to enjoy together. Subordinate to relationship.
SELF: Self-worth is spouse based. Highly vulnerable to spouse attitudes and behaviors. PRINCIPLES: ideas which create and maintain relationship with spouse.
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If your center is Family...
PLEASURE: Family activities or relatively unimportant.
FRIENDS: Friends of the family, or competition. Threat to strong family life. ENEMIES: Defined by family. Source of family strength and unity. Possible threat to family strength. CHURCH: Source of help.
SELF: Vital part of but subordinate to family. Subordinate to family. PRINCIPLES: Rules which keep family unified and strong.
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If your center is Money...
PLEASURE: Economic drain or evidence of economic stress.
FRIENDS: Chosen because of economic status or influence.
ENEMIES: Economic competitors. Threat to economic security.
CHURCH: Tax write-off. Hand in your pocket.
SELF: Self-worth is determined by net worth.
PRINCIPLES: Ways that work in making and managing money.
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If your center is Work...
PLEASURE: Waste of time. Interferes with work.
FRIENDS: Developed from work setting or shared interest. Basically unnecessary. ENEMIES: Obstacles to work productivity.
CHURCH: Important to corporate image. Imposition on your time. Opportunity to network in profession.
SELF: Defined by job role.
PRINCIPLES: Ideas that make you successful in your work. Need to adapt to work conditions.
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If your center is Possessions...
PLEASURE: Buying, shopping, joining clubs.
FRIENDS: Personal objects. Usable.
ENEMIES: Takers, thieves. Others with more possessions or recognition.
CHURCH: "My" church, a