Supercoach - Michael Neill [26]
• Since you did what you did in the past year, naturally you’ll _____ in the coming year.
3. Déjà Vu Goals
What are the goals you swore you’d reach last year . . . and the year before that . . . and the year before that?
Finish these sentence starters:
• “By now, you’d think I would have _____.”
• “This year, I’m finally going to _____.”
• “If I don’t _____ this year, I’m never going to do it!”
4. Somebody Else’s Goals
In this section, make a list of all the goals you carry around that were handed to you by someone else. This isn’t to say you don’t share others’ aspirations for you. It’s simply valuable to note the role that other people’s intentions have in shaping our own.
Get started by filling in the blanks below:
• “My father/mother was already _____ when (s)he was my age.”
• “My father/mother always wanted to _____.”
• “Everyone has always expected me to _____.”
• “My partner/spouse/friends really wish I would _____.”
In these next few categories, I’d like you to move away from the goals the mind tends to set and drop down into your heart. As you go through these categories, do your best to let go of all preconceived notions of what you could, couldn’t, should, or shouldn’t have and reflect quite simply on what you actually want, whether or not you think you can have it or create it.
5. “Deep” Wants
• What do you want more than anything else in the whole wide world?
• What do you daydream about, even if you’ve never admitted it out loud before?
• What would be even more wonderful than that?
6. “Fairy Godmother” Wants
If your fairy godmother showed up, wand at the ready, to grant you any wish you desired, what would you ask her to wave her magic wand for?
• What would you want if you could have absolutely anything drop into your lap out of the clear blue sky, without having to do anything at all to attain, keep, or maintain it?
• What else would you want?
• What else?
7. “Happy” Wants
Sometimes we don’t let ourselves dream big because we fear how disappointed we’ll be if we fail (again!) to make our dreams come true:
• What would you want if you knew you didn’t have to be unhappy about not getting it?
• If your happiness wasn’t dependent on getting what you wanted, what would you want?
• If you were already happy, what would you still want to do, be, learn, or have?
8. “Naughty” Wants
Were you ever told as a child that it was wrong to want things, or at least to want what you wanted?
• What would you want if you believed that having it wouldn’t hurt anyone else, make you a bad person, or betray anyone you cared about?
• If you didn’t think, “I shouldn’t want that,” what would you want?
• What would you want if nobody was watching?
• What would you want if nobody cared?
9. “If Only” Wants
Your life is what it is, but what if it wasn’t? Would you want different things from the ones you want now?
• What wants of yours are followed immediately by:
“but I can’t _____.”
“but I could never _____.”
“but I don’t have _____.”
• If you removed the “but . . .” what would you want?
• What would you want if only things were different?
• What would you want if you knew that you really could handle having it?
10. “Wow!” Wants
What could happen in the next day/week/month/ year that would make you go “Wow!”?
• What would you love to have more of in your life?
• What would you love to do?
• Where would you love to go?
• What would you love to learn?
• What are your “big-grin goals”—goals that bring a big grin to your face when you think about them and will bring an even bigger grin to your face when you actually create them?
Take your time going through these questions. You can write them down and carry them with you throughout the week, jotting down additional answers as they occur to you. When you’re ready, we’ll take the next step to working out what you really want to create in and with your life.
From Desire to Project
“If you have built your castles in the air, your work
need not be lost; that is where they should be.
Now put