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In San Francisco, I was playing Larry King: “So, can I ask exactly where you are touching the clit now? It’s still an upward motion?”

I was positioned on an office chair with my elbows on my knees, looking down at the woman’s vulva from about five feet away, where she and her male partner were positioned on pillows and throw rugs.

“You can get closer,” said Aiko.

“Sure. Get as close as you need to,” added the woman on her back.

So I did. I watched from a distance of about two feet, sometimes closer, as the woman’s entire physiology changed over 15 minutes, asking questions and watching the man’s technique.

Then it was my turn.

“Are you ready?” Aiko asked.

“Ah … sure.” Personal clitoral coaching was the last thing I thought I’d be doing at 10:00 A.M. on a weekday, but I already had four pages of detailed notes. If I didn’t put theory into practice, none of it would make sense later. So on went the latex gloves.

My research partner arrived, and we repeated what I’d just seen. The two coaches who’d been sitting next to me earlier were now seated in front of me, kneeling about three feet from the woman’s clitoris. They reached in occasionally to correct my hand position and offered intermittent suggestions (“ensure your forearm is parallel to her body”) or encouragement (“good stroke!”).

It was like playing for the coolest Little League team in the world. Go, Timmy, go!

My partner experienced all of the involuntary muscle contraction I had hoped for, and the group coaching, though a little weird, wasn’t uncomfortable in the least.

Aiko asked me if I had any feedback after the session ended.

I did.

“This should be required education for every man on the planet.”

Orgasm, as defined by most women, is not gratifying. It’s an all-or-nothing pressure that prevents the very phenomenon we’re after. For purposes of practicing what’s in this chapter, the following definition of orgasm is the most useful composite I found:

Orgasm is when there is no resistance—no physical or emotional blocking—to a single point of contact between one finger and the clitoris.

This state naturally leads to the involuntary contractions and flushing that most associate with the word orgasm.

Diana, the original Morehouse demo subject, concurs:

I think, for men and for women, it’s true that when you feel “this is it from the first stroke,” that it really gets better from there.

The Practice and How-To: The 15-Minute Orgasm

I believe the two principal reasons the OneTaste method works so well is that (1) it is presented as a goalless practice, and (2) it decouples orgasm from sex.

Kissing, fondling, disrobing, whispering, and requesting are all fun and wonderful parts of sex. Unfortunately, multitasking these actions often fractures the attention a woman needs to reach orgasm. We’ll develop singular focus through isolated practice, and it can later be brought into sex.

The technique requires 15 minutes of 100% concentration on approximately three square millimeters of contact. Nothing more.

Test this and practice it. The payoff will alter your sexual experiences forever.

I’ll explain this from the standpoint of a man, as that’s what I am, meng.

1. EXPLAIN TO YOUR PARTNER THAT IT IS A GOALLESS PRACTICE.

This is 100% critical. There is no objective, just a focus on a single point of contact. The phrasing should emphasize this and remove all expectations and pressure:

“I’m going to touch you for 15 minutes. You don’t need to do anything, and you don’t have to do anything afterward. There is nowhere to get to, nothing to make happen. Just focus on the single point of contact. It’s an exercise.”

The only focus should be on the short stroke—one stroke, one stroke—just as the emphasis would be on the breath—one breath, one breath—in most forms of meditation. View it as an exercise in mindful awareness. There is no goal.

2. GET INTO POSITION.

First, the woman disrobes from the waist down and lies on her back using a pillow for neck support. Her legs are bent and spread, feet together in butterfly position. If this