Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [0]
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ISBN: 978-0-446-55136-6
Contents
Copyright
Acknowledgments
Preface: Who Died and Made You an Expert?
Section 1: Being Single
Chapter One: Single vs. Singular
Chapter Two: The New Dating Game
Chapter Three: Falling in Love, Part Two
Chapter Four: Casual Sex
Chapter Five: Independence vs. Loneliness
Chapter Six: The Single Mother
Chapter Seven: Getting Older
Chapter Eight: Dating Younger Men
Chapter Nine: How to Handle Rejection
Chapter Ten: Preparation Meets Opportunity
Chapter Eleven: Dating for Love or Money
Section 2: How to Attract Him
Chapter Twelve: Goals
Chapter Thirteen: Principles
Chapter Fourteen: Power
Chapter Fifteen: Position
Chapter Sixteen: Worth
Chapter Seventeen: Physical Currency
Chapter Eighteen: Emotional Currency
Chapter Nineteen: Asset
Chapter Twenty: Liability
Chapter Twenty-one: Pretty vs. Smart
Chapter Twenty-two: Being One of the Boys
Chapter Twenty-three: Wooing Your Man
Section 3: How to Engage Him
Chapter Twenty-four: Love
Chapter Twenty-five: Trust
Chapter Twenty-six: Sex
Chapter Twenty-seven: Keeping a Home
Chapter Twenty-eight: Give Him What He Wants
Chapter Twenty-nine: Consistency
Chapter Thirty: Being a Helpmate
Chapter Thirty-one: Giving Him Space
Chapter Thirty-two: Encouraging His Manhood
Section 4: How to Release Him
Chapter Thirty-three: When a Woman’s Fed Up
Chapter Thirty-four: Lying
Chapter Thirty-five: Flirting
Chapter Thirty-six: Cheating
Chapter Thirty-seven: If All Men Are Dogs…
Chapter Thirty-eight: The Other Woman
Chapter Thirty-nine: Never Let Him See You Sweat
Chapter Forty: Get Yourself Some Real Girlfriends
Chapter Forty-one: The Mind Fuck
Chapter Forty-two: When It’s Over, It’s Over
Chapter Forty-three: Breaking Up
Section 5: Maybe It’s You
Chapter Forty-four: Getting Married vs. Being Married
Chapter Forty-five: Relationship Stockholm
Chapter Forty-six: Choosing the Wrong Man
Chapter Forty-seven: Prudishness
Chapter Forty-eight: Insecurities
Chapter Forty-nine: Misery Loves Company
Chapter Fifty: Settling
Epilogue: Fuck! Shit! Motherfucker! Cunt! Dick!
This book is dedicated to
My Husband.
It takes one hell of a man to tame a vixen
and one hell of a vixen to let him.
Acknowledgments
What a ride it’s been, and even though this journey began with the help of a multitude of individuals by my side, it has continued with far more less company than during its origin.
Lolita, thank you for helping The Vixen Manual become exactly what I imagined it to be.
Karen and Jamie, thank you for your support and confidence in me. I only hope I have made Grand Central proud.
Jeff, you’re a pit bull of an attorney. One day, I’ll let you go crazy, I swear. Thanks for pulling it all together.
Naiim, thanks for being the best kid ever who lets Mommy work and for making me sandwiches when I was too busy to feed myself. It’s all for you.
Preface
Who Died and Made You an Expert?
Before there was The Vixen Diaries, even before Confessions of a Video Vixen, there was The Vixen Manual. I began writing this book in late 2004 and over time continued adding to its pages. I would have to continuously reread my chapters over the years and change most everything I’d written. My chapters kept changing because I kept changing. My, how I have grown since penning that first chapter way back then, and I am astounded at how much more of a metamorphosis