Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [19]
You get what you believe in.
Getting older is a victory.
The wisdom that comes with age should be the very reason you don’t fall for the same tricks you did when you were a more impressionable twenty-something.
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Chapter Eight
Dating Younger Men
Disclaimer: Younger men are delicious. Yes, I said it. Delicious. But depending on how young they are, they can also be very dangerous, as in federal-case dangerous. So please, ladies, check ID when dating someone significantly younger and be sure you’re not breaking any laws.
Now, having said that…
Younger men are delicious.
How do I know this? Honey, been there, done that, got the T-shirt and the key chain, okay?! And I’m not just talking a couple of years here, oh, no. I’m talking eleven years! I was a cougar in my twenties. Now, this is the part when you say, “But Vixen, you’ve only just turned thirty, been in a committed relationship for a couple of years…hmmm…what the hell?” Yeah, well, what can I say? Actually, I can’t say much more than that, except—be sure to check IDs, ladies. These young boys are growing up fast and are putting it down hard, and by the time you figure out he’s too young for you, you could be locked up in the pokey. Speaking of poking—boy, could he ever! What a thrilling ride it was! He was amazing in bed and a joy to goof off and get off with. He took me away from my grown-up problems and was so eager to please and learn. There really is something special about being with a younger man.
They have a swagger and a confidence that hasn’t been eroded yet by the weight of responsibility that comes with the passage of time. They step to you boldly, like Superman incarnate, and they are, indeed, Supermen of sorts, with their sinewy, muscular bodies and promises to satisfy you all…night…long. Most of these promises are easily fulfilled, since their youth places them at their sexual peak. It’s a perfect physical match for a mature woman who’s had her fill of men her own age or older who can’t, um, keep up—not without the assistance of a certain medical drug that threatens four-hour erections requiring emergency medical assistance. We peak sexually as we grow older. A virile young stallion plus a horny older woman equals happiness all around, especially in the bedroom. But we can’t live in the bedroom all the time now, can we?
Initially, you’ll find him fun and exhilarating. It’ll be like reliving your own young adulthood or experiencing it fully for the very first time. There’ll be silly jokes, cute little text messages, lots of steamy e-mails, and wild nights out followed by even wilder nights of sex with an energetic fellow who has lots to prove. Satisfying and pleasing someone with several years’ advantage will be very important to him. Lucky you!
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Vixen Say What?
The younger the man, the stronger the attachment.
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Be careful, though. A younger man has a greater potential to become attached to an older woman who has been showing him the ropes. He’ll have the stamina, but you’ll have the moves. You know, flipping him over and working muscles he didn’t even know he had. Do that enough times and that young man will be on you like wet on rain! After that, you won’t be able to shake him so easily. He’ll want more, eager to learn as much as he can. That’s when that fine line will emerge, the one where you carefully tread somewhere between being his lover and—gasp!—his mom.
Because of his youth, it won’t have been so long ago that he was under his mother’s care. And while I don’t know the actual stats on this, I’m willing to bet that men who are attracted to older women already have a bit of a Mommy complex to begin with. That doesn’t mean they want to be with their mothers, you know, biblically. It does mean they can appreciate the guidance, wisdom, and nurturing that an older woman can offer. Older women know more, just like their mothers. Older women can do it all, and your young man will bask in the glow of watching you take the lead, praising you all the way. He’ll want to be with you all the time. You