Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [57]
A woman who spends more time around men has a better chance of learning not just about the opposite sex but also about the characteristics that drive men. Many of these traits are missing from our general makeup, as many women have been raised to be worker bees instead of the queen bee. Don’t misunderstand what this means, ladies. There is nothing wrong with being a worker. Indeed, there are those of us who make diligent and excellent supports, playing a necessary and vital part in keeping things together. But there are some women who, because of their drive and hunger for leadership, are clearly cut out to be bosses. But all too often, as we are growing from girls to women, we are not provided with the strong, leading female role models we crave. This is where the appropriate male role models can come into play.
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Vixen Tip
Where personal relationships are concerned, it is vital that you find a way to make your man’s hobbies and interests your own, even if just for a moment. Interact with your male friends and family members more often and indulge in things you wouldn’t usually. Sports are a surefire way for women to participate, even if you don’t fully understand what’s happening. Just be there and get involved. Talk to the men in your life about the women in theirs. Find out their likes and dislikes about their women, ask about the experiences that made them laugh and those that made them angry—and listen, really listen. Don’t interject with opinions or suggestions, just empathize and understand. Interjecting can be cute once in a while, but when trying to relate in a man’s world, it’s often better to watch and learn before speaking. You’d hate to come across as annoying when trying to bond with your man. No matter what the men in your life are interested in, give it a try. You have no reason to be intimidated by any of it.
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Vixen Say What?
It’s better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
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Though it is true that men and women are wired differently, it is also true that with sufficient time and consideration, each sex can begin to understand the other. Every woman has a masculine side and every man, a feminine. Each should learn to tap in to the side less utilized and take note as to how much more smoothly their relationships and life will run. Make yourself available to the men in your life, whether family, platonic, or intimate. Learn as much about the opposite sex as you can.
You will find yourself becoming more open and understanding of your mate, and he will enjoy your company so much more. When you learn as much as you can about what it means to be a man, he will open up more of his life to you and respond accordingly, allowing you to feel all that it means to truly be a woman.
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Recap
From childhood on, girls lean toward other girls and boys convene with other boys.
There’s definitely something to be said for hanging with the boys.
A young woman who befriends mostly men is usually labeled a “tomboy” or “fast.”
A woman who spends more time around men has a better chance of learning not just about the opposite sex, but about the characteristics that drive men.
Every woman has a masculine side and every man, a feminine.
When you learn as much as you can about what it means to be a man, he will open up more of his life to you.
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Chapter Twenty-three
Wooing Your Man
Unlike what most of you probably think, attracting a man has very little to do with feminine wiles. It’s as if we truly think that men are stupid, not paying attention to every single detail about us, and can be lured by something as simple as a cartoonish Betty Boop gesture. If this is what you believe, then you need to reprogram your thinking, pronto! Not only are our men paying attention to us, they are taking plenty of mental notes along the way.
A man will observe all the little things about you, focusing