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particularly on those that annoy or frustrate him. Many times, he won’t say a word, even as you are doing that very annoying thing. Then one day, he’ll up and leave. You’ll have no idea why because you weren’t paying attention to all the things you do and all the things you don’t. Sure, he should have given you a heads-up. That would have been the fair thing to do. But life isn’t always fair, and men aren’t always quick to complain. They aren’t nearly as complicated as we are, and often go out of their way to avoid what they feel might turn into drama. In many instances, they look to us to be vigilant about what concerns them in the relationship, just as we look to them to be problem solvers. Men may be simple creatures, but they are far from stupid. This is the reason why the previous chapters focus on you, the total woman, from the inside out. Pay very close attention to who you are as an individual before trying to become part of a couple.

Once you become part of a couple, however, your desire to remain attractive to your mate should not diminish. If anything, it should be heightened. In this desire to attract him, you must cater to all his senses: touch, taste, sight, smell, and hearing. Titillate your mate from the top of his head to the bottom of his feet. Generate sensations he has never experienced before. Don’t be afraid to push your own limits as well as his. Get into his head first before you get into his bed. Some say romance is dead and that courting has gone out of style, but both are still alive and well, as long as you have a plan and know what you’re doing.

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Vixen Tip

Start with a series of short, slightly provocative e-mails or letters. During a night out, slip away into the ladies’ room and, on a piece of paper from home or a napkin you’ve gotten from the waitress, write a little note: Thanks for tonight. You excite me. Slip it into his hand as you leave him for the evening, then wait for his call. Or, during your lunch break, send him an e-mail: Sitting down for lunch, but all I taste is our first kiss. Sweet and simple messages like these will get him going in anticipation of what’s to come. This is a good habit to keep throughout the relationship, not just in the beginning. Set the precedent early and never forget to show him how much you think about him throughout the years, if this is the man you plan on having as your partner for life.

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Contrary to what many women may believe, men love to be courted just as much as we do. They appreciate the little things like notes and thoughtful trinkets that may not hold monetary value but mean a lot sentimentally. It is vital to your relationship to tap into your man’s feminine side once in a while without attempting to emasculate him. Sending little notes like these once a day is fine, but I would not recommend you say or do more than this in the very beginning, when both of you are still learning about one another. Ease into the relationship. There’s no need to put all your cards on the table with long, drawn-out letters about your innermost hopes and dreams. Don’t overwhelm him with a flurry of feelings after the first, second, or even fifteenth date. Moderate yourself. Give him something to look forward to by unveiling the mystery of your self one facet at a time. Sometimes a little is just enough.

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Vixen Tip

Once your relationship becomes an intimate one, though not necessarily sexual, appealing to his senses becomes not only essential but fun! After a hard day’s work, invite your man over for dinner. Set the mood with candles, lowered lighting, and soft music in the background. If you cannot cook, don’t be shy about sending out for dinner. Just be sure to serve him on your own dinnerware. After dinner, shift the setting to your bedroom by offering him a massage. Once there, the mood should be mellow, with relaxing music and more candles. Place a clean towel over your sheets beforehand, with massage oils close to the bed and within your reach. You should both strip down to your underclothes, if not totally nude. Place