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know when to leave for the sake of your heart, health, mind, and spirit. Love is in great abundance. The world is awash in it. Know and understand that you can never run dry of this emotion as long as you are willing to share it. But thanks to tons of books about soul mates, twin flames, and transcendent love, women have found themselves fixated on the idea of that one person who will walk through the door or bump into them at the supermarket or gym, perfectly matched and suited on every level, the cosmic answer and salve to every bad date and broken heart ever endured. Really, ladies, that is a lot of pressure to put on one man, don’t you think? That’s a lot of pressure for anybody. The truth is you will probably love many people in your lifetime, some of whom will stay, some of whom will go. Appreciate each experience. It was brought into your life for a reason. Savor these moments. Every man that passes through your world comes bearing gifts, indelible experiences whose value you might not recognize at the time, that ultimately play a critical role in your personal growth. Our instinct is to interpret a short-lived affair as failure and fall into despair as a result, but it is often through experiencing what we don’t want in a relationship that we are able to focus our intention and attract a better match.

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Vixen Say What?

Be sure no man can ever say you have been or done worse once he has left.

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Ideally, to reduce the likelihood of disappointment, a woman should give her body only when love is mutual and her man is as invested on all levels as she. When that kind of commitment is present, passion takes on an almost supernatural form where you and your man are so exquisitely in tune that all worries, fears, and inhibitions fall away. You’ll find yourself willing to try almost anything with the man you want to share your life with. Those are the moments when sex transcends. There is a unity of mind, body, and spirit between you as you both aim for the same objectives, of which bonding sexually is an important component. Sex is nothing without love. In its absence, you have flailing bodies connecting based on artificial hype. The hype may be strong, but the results are fleeting. Only in presence of love can the real benefits of sex endure.

We often mistake love for a romantic emotion, but, in the case of true Agape, we should love despite the romantic feelings we have for someone, even if that person doesn’t love us the way we had hoped. In order to do this, you must exist on a strong foundation of self-love. We’ve all heard the saying, “Before you can love anyone else, you have to first love yourself,” but most of us don’t. Most of us just don’t know how. Take the time to fall in love with you. You’re the most important love you will ever know.

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Vixen Tip

Undress and stand in front of a full-length mirror, no makeup, no fancy hair. Look at every inch of your body, everything that sags, ripples, and stretches. Know that though there are ways to improve certain imperfections, but also know that when you love yourself, you will never see any physical traits as imperfections. You will love it all! Treat yourself with love. Indulge in the little things that make you happy. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin, to take yourself out to lunch and enjoy your own company. Do things for yourself that make you feel special and loved instead of waiting for someone else to do them for you. Treat yourself the way you would want your mate to treat you. Uplift yourself with positive affirmations and feel secure in knowing you are loved with or without a lover.

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Vixen Say What?

If you wish to ever find true love, you must truly love yourself.

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Men can always sense if and how much you love yourself. Women who are happy with themselves give off a glow that is both infectious and magnetic to virtually everyone they encounter. Conversely, if you are self-loathing and insecure, people can spot this straightaway, especially a man who is in the market for such