Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [99]
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Vixen Tip
Unlike the film The Matrix, there is no red or blue pill to take you away from the mind fuck, and no cool visual effects to help you dodge this relationship bullet. This tip is very basic and, though it should be common sense, is the most skipped-over solution of all time. Be alert and be decisive. Set your principles and stand by them. Mind games work only on the unvigilant. Don’t let that be you. Something tells me, however, that this is not your first dog-and-pony show. You’ve been to the rodeo before, my dear. So let’s not pretend you didn’t know there are men out there who’ll try to get you to fall for their bullshit. How you proceed when presented with the mind fuck will determine how you handle everything else in the relationship. If you go for it, you’ll go for anything. If you don’t, he’ll know he can’t pull any false moves because you’ll always be on high alert. He’ll be less likely to resort to these tactics. Why? Because he’ll realize that you’re capable of pulling a few mind fucks of your own! As the saying goes, “Game recognizes game.”
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But before we go all the way off about how he’s messing with your head, make sure you’re not the one who’s fooling with his. We have a way of pushing a man’s buttons when we have rendered him helpless against our feminine wiles. Ladies, you can’t drive a man to the brink and not expect him to push back. We are emotional creatures who can run hot and cold, which can confuse the hell out of most men. When a woman is skilled enough to pull it off, her mind fuck can be way more potent than his. Between our housekeeping, cooking, and sexual skills, compounded by our supple, soft, and pleasantly fragranced bodies, men are often putty in our hands. When we apply ourselves, we can be just as adept as men, if not better, at whatever we choose—mind games included.
This is no way to carry on a relationship. When this sort of game comes into play, it’s a good sign things aren’t going well. It might be in both of your best interests to let the relationship go, no matter who initiated or continues the mind fuck. Neither of you will be happy in this scenario. It is an exhaustive cycle that can only breed anger and resentment.
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Recap
Welcome to the Matrix.
This is a trick!
How you proceed, once you’re aware of this, is all about strategy— which you will need, because this is war.
He knows that if he can make your attack against him seem like your fault, it buys him more time, more advantage, more power, more everything.
He can’t turn the tables on what he can’t read.
You can’t drive a man to the brink and not expect him to push back.
This is no way to carry on a relationship.
It is an exhaustive cycle that can only breed anger and resentment.
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Chapter Forty-two
When It’s Over, It’s Over
(And Honey, It’s Over!)
Once you realize that there are more cons than pros in your relationship and you make up your mind to end things and move on, it’s imperative that you stick to your guns and not look back. Conversely, if your man has decided that he is through and has already left the relationship— either mentally, physically, or both—you must get out of the way. Let him go, no matter how much it hurts. We can get over the pain of a breakup, but to hang on to someone who doesn’t want you can do much more damage to your psyche in the long run. Whatever the case, whether it’s you wanting out or him, it’s important to recognize the universal signs that the relationship has run its course and to respond accordingly.
The two of you have had your share of fights, maybe even broken up a few times and gotten back together, all with the intention