Blow Him Away_ How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex - Marcy Michaels [11]
Another option is to nip your discomfort in the bud by showing your partner what you like. You can use your hands, mouths, and anything else you can think of to demonstrate. You can also use hot, sexy language to describe it in a way that will build anticipation.
You should never have to feel concerned or tense about what your partner might do to you during oral sex. A few words, and sometimes just a subtle movement, are enough to give them the indications they need for what makes you comfortable and what you like.
Now that you're truly prepared, inside and out, to give and receive oral sex (and perhaps do both simultaneously), let's suit you up with the skills you're going to need to capitalize on this potential for a deeply satisfying sensual exchange.
3
Initial Tonguework for
Lingual Love
PREPARING YOUR MOUTH AND TONGUE
TO MEET YOUR PARTNER OF CHOICE
THE BEST PREPARATION for any mouth about to engage in oral sex is a good, thorough toothbrushing that addresses every side of the teeth (outside and inside, from the ridge to the gum line) with equal enthusiasm and plentiful toothpaste and water. Move the toothbrush over your tongue, use a mouthwash, and when it's all over, run the toothbrush over your lips to remove any dry, chapped skin. A soft, clean mouth is a much more welcome pleasure-giver. If you're with a new partner and not using a condom (though I suggest you do), keep in mind that the lip-brushing can create minute cuts, on and around the mouth and raise your susceptibility to STDs.
Before beginning the exercises in the book, take a moment to isolate and define the problems you might be addressing.
1. Lockjaw. Your jaw is gripped by tension, set in one position, so your tongue is allowed no free play. (This can be a particular problem for lispers.)
2. The Tooth Monster. Lack of jaw control can mean that your teeth get in the way, snagging on things that they shouldn't and making what should be a tender, erotic moment seem like an operation without anesthetic.
3. The Drowning Pool. You produce too much saliva, which gets in the way of your breathing properly and keeping up a steady, even, controlled stroke.
4. The Tongue Depressive. Your tongue is sluggish, lazy. You can't flick it lightly, catching those sensitive spots at the right time and with the right pressure.
5. Flabby Tongue. Your tongue is bulbous, large and flaccid, with no flexibility and no tonal quality. For all the good it does your partner, it might as well have rolled itself up into a ball and curled itself away to hibernate for the winter.
6. The Big Gag. You don't know exactly why, but you're gagging. And you thought only collard greens could do this to you! But don't worry, it can be easily fixed without years of psychotherapy.
Everyone has a different relationship to oral sex, and while many of these problems may have psychological and cultural components, developing your skills and sense of confidence toward oral sex will help give you an overall sense of well-being. If some or all of these items are issues for you, you might want to jump ahead to chapter 6 and take the Oral Sex Fitness Test. Then, when you have a sense of how fit your tongue is in general, you will know how often to perform the exercises needed to strengthen the following areas and eliminate these problems for good.
The techniques you're working to attain will create a firm foundation from which you can build more advanced skills. They won't automatically make you a great oral lover, but they will give you all the tools you need.
Jaw Control. So you can open your mouth as wide as necessary,