Blow Him Away_ How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex - Marcy Michaels [12]
Proper Breathing. Learning how to breathe in and out of your nose, so you don't run out of breath while your mouth is busy. You'll eliminate one more distraction, and make it that much easier to concentrate on the magic that's passing between you and your lover.
Easing the Tension. Oral sex involves more than just your mouth. Learning how to relax your neck and shoulders, your knees, your fingers, your whole body, will contribute greatly to your being able to focus all your enthusiasm on the matter at hand.
Swallowing. Using your whole throat to swallow releases the constrictions in everything that's above it—tongue, sinuses, nasal passages.
Tonguemanship. This is probably the most sensitive, sensuous part of your body. But you have to know how to use it—and you have to get it into shape.
GETTING TO KNOW YOUR TERRIFIC TONGUE
The next time you're in the bathroom, take a look at your tongue. Most of us think of our tongues as one unit, but the tongue has four distinct sections that you will need to familiarize yourself with in order to move your tongue techniques into second gear. These are: the tip (the position of the tongue nearest the teeth), the blade (the point just below the alveolar ridge), the middle (the section that touches the roof of your mouth beyond the alveolar ridge when you arch your tongue), and the back (the part that falls away from the roof of your mouth in an arched position).
Your tongue is the largest and most powerful muscle in the body, and distinguished from other muscles by its ability to flatten and point itself so dexterously. By its capacity to flatten and lengthen, or sharpen and point its tip, as well as its ability to alternate between heavy and light exertions of pressure, the tongue is custom-crafted to administer oral sex. There is nothing in your local sex shop that can do all this. To boot, the tongue has a smooth underside, as well as a rough top texture “for their pleasure.”
The Spot
The first step in developing your tongue's strength and precision (directly connected to its ability to give pleasure) is to identify the Spot. This is a particular place on the roof of your mouth where you will need to place your tongue for the majority of the tongue- and lip-strengthening exercises in this book. To find it, insert your (clean) finger into your mouth so that you're touching the place where the backs of your top teeth meet the gums. Trace your finger from here to the spot where the roof suddenly drops to another level. This slope is known as the alveolar ridge.
Remove your finger and start playing with your tongue. See how sharply you can point the tip. It needs to be more like a pencil than an eel. The sharper you can make the tip, the more delicately and precisely you are going to be able to stimulate your lover. When you have made your best possible point and identified the tip of your tongue, place the tip only on the drop-off (or alveolar ridge). Don't let your tongue touch your front row of teeth, and make sure that it doesn't fall beyond the ridge.
The Spot: Perfect Placement for the Tongue
Keeping your tongue in this position will stop it from changing the position of the lips, something the tongue is notorious (in my field anyway) for doing. Think of your tongue as a hammy actor—it's always trying to get past, distract, or upstage your lips and jaw from their function. But worse than that, it can also take energy away from the lips. So put that tongue in its place.
Aside from enabling you to participate in the exercises, placing your tongue here can stimulate the blood supply to the brain, increasing concentration and mental clarity. To do this, keep the tip of the tongue pressing up into the Spot, and let the middle of your tongue come up onto the roof of your mouth without changing the tip's pressure. Only the middle should be pressing into the curved top of the mouth. The back of your tongue should still be hanging down into the back of the mouth. Holding this position will help you become more composed and clear-minded. It requires a