Blow Him Away_ How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex - Marcy Michaels [13]
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Kissing
PERHAPS BECAUSE KISSING on TV and in movies is immediately passionate, kissers tend to try to copy what they've seen. But the art of kissing cannot be reduced to pucker-and-lunge. There are as many different kinds of kisses as there are people kissing, each with its own particular combination of pressure and pace.
The ancient Indian Kama Sutra was aware of this, devoting an entire chapter to kissing and identifying fourteen types of kisses. In our culture today, we seem to have forgotten just how varied kissing can be. We know about the peck, the lip kiss, and frenching, but all the in-between is frequently overlooked, and kissing itself is frequently rushed through as a trifling preliminary.
Partially, this may be because most of us don't know how to use our mouths and lips in ways that produce a variety of erotic, pleasurable sensations (although erotic desperation definitely takes some of the blame). Whatever the cause, maximizing the pleasure afforded by your oral kisses will enhance all your lingual caresses, and alert your partner to the pleasures in store for them.
The most common complaints I hear concern half-lipped, lifeless kisses, so we'll address these first. Complaints about this kind of kiss range from disengagement (“I felt like she was just poking and pressing her lips around mine”) to actual confusion (“It seemed like he was trying to whisper something really close to my mouth, like right into it. . . . Then I realized he was kissing me.”) A very common phenomenon, this kind of weak kissing results from the individual's using only a small portion of the outer lip to kiss, instead of their full lips (including the smooth insides of the lip). The result is a dry kiss that feels more like lip bumper cars than an expression of passionate tenderness. The exercises in this chapter can help you use your full lips to create a maximum sensation of pleasure when you kiss.
COMING TO GRIPS WITH YOUR LAZY LIPS
Though they take over completely during kissing, lips are a primary point of contact with your lover during all of oral sex, so they must be as exquisitely soft and pleasing to the touch as possible. These kissing exercises must be as devoted to developing a velvet touch as they are to extending and strengthening lip movement. While developing mastery over the movement of the lips is extremely important to help them create a wide variety of sensations on cue, you do not want to tone your lips so much that they become firm or traditionally muscular.
To keep your lips soft and inviting, make sure that you never perform lip exercises with tense lips. Pucker and tap your lips gently with your index finger. How soft do your lips feel? This is how they should feel when you perform the lip exercises. Avoid tensing your lips when you go through the motions of each exercise. For the first week of practice, you should do all of the exercises in this book standing in front of a mirror, so that you can be sure that the correct part of the lips and mouth—and nothing else—is moving. In the beginning, you should do each exercise separately, with a five- to ten-minute break in the interim. After the first week, the exercises can flow into one another. Each exercise should be performed every day for seven days; then you can switch to every other day for an additional week to train the muscles to remember their new skills.
Kissing Exercises
Pucker Up
With your tongue on the Spot (see chapter 3), push your lips all the way forward until they open and roll their insides out, sticking as much of the inside of your lips out as possible. Then, keeping them fully extended, open and close your lips, bringing just the fleshy parts together to form a small circle. Touch them together five times. Practicing Pucker Up may make you look a little silly, and a lot like a fish, but trust this exercise—it will put you far ahead of the game by helping you find the correct