Blow Him Away_ How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex - Marcy Michaels [17]
Kissing: Practice for the Big Event
Once you have practiced the exercises in this chapter for a week, and your lips are stronger, more flexible, and fully engaged, you can begin this serious tutorial of kissing techniques.
Though I wouldn't suggest trying everything in the Kama Sutra (there are some sections on biting and scratching your lover that seem best saved for when you're feeling über-kinky), this ancient book offers a valuable perspective on kissing that I have attempted to incorporate here. The wide diversity of kisses it recognizes points to an important insight: each kind of kiss has a specific meaning, and transmits something particular and distinct to your lover. Adopting this attitude toward both kissing and oral sex will enable you to read your lover's signs and signals and to respond appropriately.
Lovers are constantly sending each other messages, with every breath, every movement, and every gesture. Becoming aware of how these messages are transmitted, learning to recognize them from your partner, and sending them more clearly is the stuff of great sex. The several hundred thousand subconscious messages lovers send each other in bed (and out of bed, too!) lend sex between two individuals its distinctive character, and determine whether sex is mind-blowing or humdrum. Being aware that each of your sexual gestures sends certain messages to your partner will help you tap into the silent sensual dialogue between your bodies.
Kissing with Your Whole Self
On some level, your partner will intuitively sense your state of mind when you kiss them. They will sense your desire—and your distraction. Some people are more sensitive (or more willing to delude themselves) than others, so there will naturally be discrepancies in your lover's reception. Considering that the majority of communication is nonverbal, * and that the acts of kissing and oral sex in particular consist of a high level of physical contact in one area, it's safe to assume that you'll have trouble hiding much of anything when you're going down.
To become a great kisser, both oral and otherwise, the most important skill you can acquire is that of focus. When your lips touch your lover's skin, make sure you are fully mentally present and not just going through the motions. Do whatever it takes to focus in on the part of yourself that desires intimacy with this person. Focusing on that part will make it blossom, and will lead your eager tongue to spots divine. There is no inspiration so great as true comfort.
The following outline (roughly inspired by the Kama Sutra) should help you distinguish among the different types of kisses, and to become aware of all the different messages a kiss can communicate. It is set up according to levels of intensity, and while generally that progression is best (as in oral sex), it does not need to be followed to a T; rather, the best guide for what to do and when to do it is the response of your partner. Let your kissing meander and explore, returning to what works, and abandoning what doesn't without stress.
The First Kiss
For the first kiss, you might want to try a soft, tender kiss where the lips merely touch each other for a moment, without much saliva or motion, but making sure to use a little bit of the smooth inside of the lip. Essentially, what this kiss says is: “I'm interested in kissing you. Care to join?” This kiss has little to do with the position of the lips, and it doesn't need any complicated hokeypokey. It transmits a simple message of interest.
If your partner responds just a little, or not at all, to this gentle kiss, you should bide your time before progressing to a more forceful kiss. Generally, the best sign that your partner is ready for an increase in intensity is their body movement. If he's moving his lips, and his hands are starting to reach for you or rub you, or his body moves closer to yours, the light doesn't get greener.
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