Blow Him Away_ How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex - Marcy Michaels [19]
The “I Want a Piece of You” Kiss
Once you sense your partner is getting excited and responding to your movements, you can start making your kisses firmer and deeper. The firmer you kiss your lover, the more loudly you are telling him how much you want him. Your tongue is exploring his mouth, and your hands are starting to hold him with some degree of force. Compare it to exclaiming “I want you!” right to your partner's face. In the same way that you wouldn't yell this to someone on a first date, you don't just jump straight into this kiss. It's appropriate when it is adding fuel to the fire, and not being used to ignite one.
The Love Anvil
This is a harder kiss that you give once you are 100 percent sure that your lover is so hot for you they can barely stand it. More rapid responses to your kisses, accompanied by little cries or moans, indicate that your partner's passion is hot enough to fry an egg—and that's the only time when it's okay to apply the Love Anvil. Use your tongue to essentially copy the rhythm of intercourse by rubbing it more passionately and with increasing speed against the taste bud side of your partner's tongue. Until now, your tongue should have stayed fairly wide, but it's okay here to point the tip a bit because the kissing has become more passionate and aggressive.
The Erotic Nibble
Now that your partner is chomping at the bit, feel free to chomp a little right back. A love bite can add sensation and eroticism to a kiss, but must be performed very carefully. Exerting control over your jaw, give your lover a little nip on the lip. Your tongue should be in the Spot for this action, because otherwise you might bite too hard or too softly. Keeping your tongue in the Spot maintains good jaw control, so that your bite can be both tender and firm. The idea here is not to actually hurt them, but to heighten their sensation. Before you try this with someone else, try biting the skin on your own finger first, so that you can get a sense of the strength of your jaw and the sharpness of your teeth. The Erotic Nibble is a powerful gesture; it says, “I want to consume you.”
Progressing from light kisses to more intense ones—with plenty of space and time afforded for reversions, impulses, and experiments—is a good model for performing oral sex. In the same way that you would not jump right into a heavy, deeply probing kiss, oral sex requires a build-up period where your lover is given a little time to get used to the contact.
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Oral Sex Ground Rules
YOU WILL ALWAYS have to customize oral sex for your partners: each person has a distinct set of preferences, and there's no getting around that. (We'll talk later about how to identify what those are.) But regardless of who your partner is, here are some base guidelines that lay the foundation for great oral sex.
NOT TONIGHT, HONEY . . .
The only way to truly pleasure your lover with oral sex is to approach the act with evident enthusiasm. If you don't feel like giving him oral sex, try making the atmosphere sexier and more relaxing. Focus on your favorite qualities about his physique, and move from there. Your evident, surging desire to take him in your mouth is the most important factor for a great blow job. No amount of technical skill can compensate for that. If you're truly just not in the mood, tell him how sexy he is, and promise a rain check instead of forging ahead anyway. Nothing, and I mean nothing, ruins good head like the feeling your partner is doing something they don't want to do.
IT AIN'T OVER TILL THE FAT LADY SINGS . . .
Do not stop giving a blow job to answer the phone or perform any activity other than another sex act. As obvious as this may seem, the number of complaints I get on this count is astonishing. You can—and should—take lingering, tantalizing pauses during oral sex to tease him like wild, and thereby