Blow Him Away_ How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex - Marcy Michaels [20]
THE PRICK THAT PAINS . . .
Be careful not to use your teeth or nails on the skin of the penis with more pressure than you would use to pick up a marshmallow. If the reasoning for this isn't self-evident, you should probably have your partner sign a disclaimer before you begin.
AND THE PRICK THAT PLEASES . . .
While the penis is sensitive to sharp objects like teeth and nails, one of the greatest complaints about blow jobs (though there aren't terribly many) is that partners seem afraid to give penises firm caresses. While too much intensity is possible, it's unlikely. Also, (very) light nibbles along the shaft can be most appreciated.
NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF LUBRICATION
Depending on how long you want to draw it out, a really great blow job typically needs about a tablespoon of lube. Whether it's a cup of water by the bed for the lubeless, or a delicious flavored lube for the well-prepared, or even some classic K-Y, when in doubt, bring the lube out. Always err on the side of too much, because you're going to need more. The penis should be continually lubed, regardless of where it's going. Similarly, anything being inserted into the anus—be it a fingertip or something more creative—must be extremely well-coated in a reliable lube.
Before you apply the lube the first time, warm it by rubbing your hands together like a thoughtful masseuse. (After you've been fellating him for a while, the coolness can be refreshing, but isn't particularly welcome before.)
If you're using a condom or dental dam, put some water-based lube on the penis before it goes on to increase sensation. Don't do this if you have only oil-based lube available. Anything oil-based—and this includes lots of lubes, so make sure you read the fine print—can cause a condom to develop tiny holes.
RHYTHM NATION
Even if your technical skills aren't very honed (this shouldn't be a problem if you've been performing the exercises outlined until this point), rhythm can compensate for a lot. While taking the penis in, and almost completely out, of your mouth, you need to find the beat of your man's drum. Start by working off the rhythm that seems most pleasurable to him—be it slow and light or fast and furious—but make sure to vary your approach every once in a while.
Occasionally, you may want to take the penis entirely out of your mouth and lick it with tiny tongue strokes up and down the shaft, then put it back in and reclaim your rhythm. Later, take it out again, give a little flick lick to the head, and pop it right back in. This rhythmic variation allows the penis to become resensitized to your touch and allows for a continuing renewal of sensations. Like Thelonious Monk letting loose on the ivories, you need to throw some surprises into your beat (without losing your rhythm) to keep him fully interested and aroused.
LEND THAT HELPING HAND
The variety of sensations, not their source, makes or breaks a blow job. Many people make the mistake of thinking that oral sex is simply mouth sex. You really should be using your entire body to stimulate and arouse your lover. Always use your hands—and chest, and hair, and fingers—to emphasize and expand sensation while you're performing oral sex. There's no reason for the mouth to go it alone.
While it's nice when a partner can take the entire penis into their mouth, it isn't necessary when it causes discomfort. As a rule of thumb, try to take in around half the shaft, and simply use your hands to cover the rest and work with the rhythm of your mouth. Only the head requires heavy stimulation, but you should be able to move your mouth up and down the shaft a little, too. Regardless of the size of your man's member, your (well-lubed!) hands can provide a more complete sensation of immersion than your mouth alone could ever offer.
DROP THAT 'TUDE, DUDE
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