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partner for an extended period of time, one of you inevitably begins to crave more. It’s a natural progression that occurs when the two same bodies repeatedly intermingle with each other. But let’s say that you’ve already set your standards and demands extremely low. Suppose you began a relationship on a sexual basis only, agreeing with someone that sex, and sex alone, would be enough and you wouldn’t require more than just a physical connection, but now things have changed for you. You’ve become emotionally invested. You actually like this guy…maybe even love him. To tell you to expect things will now change in your favor would be lying. We all know it doesn’t work like this. It’s difficult to talk a man into being your life partner after months or years of noncommittal sex. You’ll be accused of trying to change the game in the ninth inning and men generally do not respond well to this.

There is a way to prevent this. If we were just more honest with ourselves from the very beginning and not so adamant on playing by the man’s rules, things could be different. We should choose to introduce our own rules, instead of bending to those that don’t come natural to us. You shouldn’t be afraid of what it means to be a woman, and part of that means understanding that we are wired to feel an emotional connection with a sexual partner, especially one who makes a repeat appearance. If more of us were up front about this basic sexual truth, we’d stand a much better chance of finding more long-term, meaningful relationships.

Men seem to be more effective at compartmentalizing than women. They generally have more success than we do at putting things and people in priority and in perspective. When a woman settles for casual sex, she places herself very low on a man’s list of priorities, and he will treat her accordingly. He won’t understand her ranting about needing more of his time. He will become confused about where such intense feelings are coming from, especially if both parties agreed from the beginning that their relationship was just about sex and nothing more. You can’t blame the man for this. Once the terms were set, the terms were set. This is why you shouldn’t accept this kind of situation at all, not if you’re actively seeking a fulfilling relationship. There’s no tricking the man down the road, no winning him over to your side of things. A situation like this usually ends badly, with the woman feeling demoralized and hurt because the man wanted nothing more than the use of her body, and with him resenting her for having tried to switch what he believed was an honest, straightforward situation. Don’t settle, ladies. It will only work against you. When a woman ups the ante and demands more of herself and of a potential partner, the odds of getting what she wants increases exponentially.

Aside from the emotional baggage a woman can carry around with her for life, there can be serious physical repercussions related to casual sex. Aside from the inconvenient and embarrassing itch of crabs, the blistering discomfort of genital warts, or a lifelong relationship with herpes, you can flatout die after contracting AIDS. There’s no Airborne—that over-the-counter product developed by a schoolteacher for staving off the flu—that you can take to ward off these things. The ideal way to protect yourself is to employ good judgment, doing what is best for you in the long run.

Let’s be even more blunt about this, just to make sure you get it. Having too much casual sex can result in a woman becoming worn out, and I’m talking literally, in this particular instance. Have you ever seen a woman you can tell has just been physically run through? Everything about her appears to be spent. Her face seems beaten and weathered, and her body has begun to give in to gravity, because that’s what happens when it’s subjected to too much wear and tear without sufficient preventative maintenance. And let’s not even talk about what sex does to your nether regions. Don’t lie, ladies. We all know what “porn pussy” looks like. The lips are practically hanging