Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [111]
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Men get tired hearing the words no and I don’t do that. A man wants to be able to indulge in his fantasies with his woman. In the long run, it saves him lots of time, money, and secrecy if he can just get the goods at home. There would be no need to visit the local strip club if he has his very own stripper at home. He certainly won’t need to sneak away with that younger, friskier woman if he’s got a tigress waiting in bed for him at home. Put on some music, the kind they play at the strip club that encourages lots of bumping and grinding. Get decked out in provocative lingerie. Sit him down in a chair and do a striptease for him, complete with a lap dance and bending your ass over in his face, backing that thing up all the way to his mouth. Now is not the time to be shy. If these are things you can’t imagine yourself doing, then you’re in big trouble. A man wants and needs a woman who is willing to excite him. If you’re not willing to do so, then perhaps you’re not ready to be in a whole and healthy relationship.
So what’s your point, Vixen? you ask. My point? You mean you still haven’t gotten it yet? Okay, let me make it simpler: that good-girl shit can hold his attention for only a little while. It is, admittedly, cute in the beginning. A man loves feeling as though he’s protecting someone sweet and innocent. Inevitably, however, his nature will rise, as the elders like to say, and whether your man is a kindergarten teacher or a preacher, you can bet there’s a freak living inside of him. If that freak were being fed at home on a regular basis, there would be a lot less Jimmy Swaggarts, Bill Clintons, and Eliot Spitzers in the world and a lot more satisfied, faithful, and honest husbands.
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Vixen Say What?
There are two types of men: Those who marry their ultimate lover and those who will cheat on their wives with their ultimate lover. Which would you prefer your man to be?
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Recap
When it comes down to a man’s fantasies, very few of them include a woman who won’t go down on him in a movie theater!
Men get tired hearing the words no and I don’t do that.
A man wants and needs a woman who is willing to excite him.
Whether your man is a kindergarten teacher or a preacher, you can bet there’s a freak living inside of him.
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Chapter Forty-eight
Insecurities
All right, ladies, how many of you have been guilty of being insecure? Raise your hand. Wow, that’s a lot of hands I see raised! Of course, it’s natural to be unsure of things, but what’s not natural is to panic, accuse, freak out, and become downright hostile, all because you’re afraid or don’t know how to trust. If you’re not sure of yourself, how is your man supposed to be sure about you? We all have insecurities, but for some of us these insecurities sometimes turn into man-eating beasts that can swallow up our lives and our men, and ruin any attempts we make at having healthy relationships.
A woman is least attractive when she is insecure. Ironically, insecurity has nothing to do with looks, as there are plenty of women out there whom you might not consider as attractive as you but are leaps and bounds ahead on the confidence scale. Confidence is a state of mind and affects the way you carry yourself, from your posture to the way you make eye contact and interact with others. How many times have you seen the scenario where a beautiful woman is abandoned by her man for someone others might call average? The abandoned, heartbroken woman can’t figure it out. She’s got it all, after all. Apparently, however, she doesn’t. Her man was attracted to the strength and vivacity exuded by the other woman. She was sure of herself and he found that irresistible. Men always do. They may not even be aware of what’s attracting them to you, but if you are filled with self-assurance, it’s like flipping on a thousand-watt light switch when you enter a room. All eyes are on you.
Conversely, a lack of confidence in yourself or your mate is a surefire