Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [21]
A virile young stallion plus a horny older woman equals happiness all around.
A younger man is more likely to become attached to an older woman who has been showing him the ropes.
You’ll find yourself feeling like his mother one minute and his sadist the next.
The more life experience and wisdom you have between you, the better the chances of your relationship surviving.
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Chapter Nine
How to Handle Rejection
So, he doesn’t want you anymore. He’s through, done, over it. He’s changed his numbers, his schedule, and the route he takes on his way home from work. You’ve been dumped, honey. Tossed aside. Told, in no uncertain terms, to kick rocks. In fact, he’s already moved on. Now what?
Whatever you do, don’t fall apart. Now is the time to bolster yourself. If you lose your cool, it will only be the first of several escalating irrational reactions, each increasingly darker and more desperate than the last. We tend to take things extremely personally when it comes to our relationships with men. In reality, you could be the very reason your relationships keep falling apart. For all you know, you could be an unbearable bitch and an emotional vampire, sucking the life out of everyone you come across, so let’s not count that theory out just yet. You might want to put yourself in your ex’s shoes for a moment and consider the following: would you want to be involved with you?
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Vixen Say What?
If every time you walk into a room you smell ass, you may want to check your own.
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On a related note, you may have a habit of choosing jerks, men who are incapable of commitment, or men who know that because of the low standards you’ve set for yourself, they don’t have to put forth much effort to earn your time and attention. There can be a number of reasons why your relationships do not last, but all that matters is…they don’t.
So, before you take another breakup personally and feel the need to add your ex to your shit list, think about what you may have contributed to the demise of your relationship and the ones that preceded it. If you find it impossible to rationalize the outcome of a failed relationship, especially in its recent wake, then focus your attention back on yourself. Do your best to grieve in a healthy manner. Pick yourself up and, as hard as it may seem to do in that moment, direct your energies toward moving on. People recover from breakups every day. So can you. If done correctly, you can emerge even better than you were before, much wiser about life and love. Whatever you do, don’t direct your attention toward your ex. If you do find yourself, however, having obsessive thoughts about him and what he’s doing now that you’re no longer a part of his life, the following tip outlines ways to avoid or at least minimize engaging in further self-destructive behavior.
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Vixen Tip
The following is a list of things you should not do.
1. Do not call him more than once a day, if at all.
2. If you do call him and he ignores your call, do not leave a psycho message.
3. After placing several calls with no answer or callbacks, do not go to his house and sit outside in your car.
4. If you find yourself stalking him, do not get out of your car!
5. Okay, if you find yourself getting out of your car, do not jump his gate, bang on his door, scream his name, or find an open window to crawl through.
6. If you find yourself jumping his gate, banging on his door, screaming his name, and crawling through an open window, do not resist arrest!
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Vixen Say What?
Examples of the psycho message: You lose control of your emotions and demeanor; you make threats against him or yourself; or you call every few minutes to do so.
You don’t want to wind up having your voice message played over and over to a roomful of his buddies as they knock back beers and laugh at what a loon you are. Or, worse, you don’t want him and his cronies to film themselves laughing at your message and