Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [31]
Who wants to be a pushover, anyway? Ladies, it’s important that you not lose sight of the rules and expectations of your life. Always fight for what you believe in and never settle for less. Don’t allow anyone to make you feel ashamed for only wanting to date a man who is successful in his chosen line of business and financially independent, or a man who commands respect among his peers or even unconsciously provokes fear and envy in them. If you fall for a short, thick, bald man and all your friends have tall, athletic boyfriends with magnificent heads of hair, so what? If that’s what you like, then, damn it, that’s what you like. Don’t let the judgment and pressure of others deter you or make you bend to their will.
I find it absolutely silly and hypocritical that some men do everything in their power to become financially successful and acquire all the trappings that indicate their wealth (a big house or an apartment, luxury vehicles, the finest clothing), all in an effort to get the most attractive woman they can—a woman whose sexiness and overall desirability can be a testament to the virility of the man who got her. These same men then turn around and accuse the women they attracted of being gold diggers. Where’s the sense in all this? If the man didn’t want to attract a woman who found a successful man sexy, ambitious, and would be a great provider for her and a future family, then why did he work so hard? Was it to turn women off? Of course not.
We all know that an accomplished, driven man will not be ignored. He’ll buy the biggest luxury vehicle he can and trick it out to within an inch of its metal, all in an effort to shout to the sexiest women around, Pick me! I make money! I can afford things! I can afford you! and to declare to his fellow men, I am a man apart! Above all others! Look at my big toy! It’s bigger than yours! It is a formula evident in the mating rituals of almost every living creature. Males in the animal kingdom typically choose females for their ability to reproduce and nurture their young to adulthood. Females typically choose males for their power and exuberant masculinity above other males. This is why male peacocks will fan their lustrous tail feathers, strutting their stuff, demonstrating that they possess the best plumage and should therefore get the prize peahens.
A perfect example of this played out in my living room one night on the Discovery Channel.
There was a family of four lionesses, their cubs, and a male sire. One day, a lonely lion in need of his own family came across this one and challenged the sire to a duel. The lonely lion won, killing the sire, then killed off the cubs as the lionesses looked on. The lionesses didn’t fight for their children but allowed them to be murdered, and then submitted to the lonely lion, who was lonely no more. Not long thereafter, the lionesses bore him his own sets of cubs. Now that is male prowess!
So what’s your point, Vixen? you might ask. My point is this: it is instinctive, even in the wild, for a woman to be drawn to power and success, so there’s nothing wrong with you being drawn to the most successful, most powerful men who can provide for you. That doesn’t make you a gold digger. That makes you smart. That being said, however, if it is part of your dating principle to be with a man who can comfortably provide for you and his family, make sure you are worthy of it. This should be a fair trade. No man wants to take on a woman who just wants to enjoy the spoils of his hard work and contribute nothing of her own to complement and enhance their union.
So many times throughout my life, I sacrificed my own principles in order to feed an immediate need for companionship or acceptance. In retrospect, I have learned that instant gratification is not worth sacrificing long-term peace of mind. Many of us accept less than we