Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [33]
I cannot stress how important this is. Sure, lap dances and dildos are more fun to talk about, and as I said before, we’ll get to them soon enough… but you are more important than anything.
Once you’ve got your life in order, you can have all the lap dances and dildos you want!
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Recap
None of us have the right to judge another’s moral correctness and principles.
A woman who stands for nothing will fall for anything.
Don’t let the judgment and pressure of others deter you or make you bend to their will.
If it is part of your dating principle to be with a man who can comfortably provide for you and his family, make sure you are worthy of it.
Any form of abuse is absolutely unacceptable.
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Chapter Fourteen
Power
Sex is power. Money is power. Education is power. Beauty is power. Property is power. Position is power. There have been many things offered as definite sources and proof of power, too many to count. All of these suggestions can be correct, based on what your objectives are. Personally, I find that power doesn’t exist in just one thing, but in a combination of many. What good is sex if it’s with an unmotivated nonintellectual who doesn’t have the wherewithal to at least strive to own something in his or her corner of the world? How would you be able to reach full emotional or physical orgasm with someone like that?
Now…what if this person is you?
Vixen!
That’s right, I said it.
Forget about what you want the man you attract to have. What exactly do you bring to the table? Are you banking solely on your good looks to earn a powerful position in life and relationships? Do you really believe that if all you have to offer is a gorgeous face, a killer figure, and a hefty sexual appetite, you can keep a man’s attention? Ha! That must mean you’ve never heard the running joke, “For every beautiful woman, there’s a man who’s sick of fucking her.” That means you, pretty girl—so much for beauty’s power. I’m sure you’ve figured that out by now, if you’ve ever found yourself eating the dust of a man who couldn’t get away from you fast enough because he was fed up with your limitations. “How could he leave a woman as fine as me?” you ask yourself. Because, girlfriend, looks are not, and never will be, enough. Not to mention the fact that they have a very limited shelf life. If beauty is your sole currency, what happens when that beauty fades?
Maybe you think that being smart, having a degree, landing that high-paying corporate job, and buying that beautiful new town house overlooking the park will attract him. Now that’s power, for sure. What? He still left you? But you’re smart, damn it! You graduated summa cum laude from an Ivy League school! And your town house…it’s so lovely, with lots of expensive artwork and furniture. How could he leave?
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Vixen Say What?
Good looks will always get you in the door, but what’s going to keep you in the room?
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So many women offer too much of one thing and none of the other, believing that they can’t do it all. Nothing could be further from the truth. We as women are incredibly constructed creatures, designed with the capacity to accomplish a broad range of things…simultaneously. That doesn’t mean you have to be Superwoman. What it does mean is that it’s in our best interest to work and live to our fullest potential. This is how you gain power. A woman who knows her craft, works hard at it, and is successful in it, and can contribute to the financial responsibilities of a dual-income household or hold herself down just as well as or better than