Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [65]
If you don’t take a chance, none will be given.
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Chapter Twenty-six
Sex
Sex, when performed effectively and with mutual enthusiasm, can be a sublime experience that carries the couple away—physically, spiritually, and emotionally—to a place where only those two can go. And just as no two individuals are alike, the sexual connection between two partners is unique to them and cannot be re-created with anyone else. Approached correctly, with all the proper conditions in place—trust, love, friendship, respect—the ride can be binding as these two bodies move together in hot, passionate unison. It is not the lust, the thrill of the chase, or the electricity of the moment that binds them. It is all the things that have led up to this moment, things that have encouraged security and stability. The physical act of sex by itself has very little to do with what makes a truly emotional and satisfying sexual experience.
That’s right. The physical act is a minor part of what’s most important about a true sexual union. Once you’ve reached a heightened, successfully functional relationship with your partner, all manner of freedoms will begin to take place. You both will feel uninhibited during sex, free to express your desires, fantasies, and needs. You will breathe in and devour each other, becoming one in mind, body, and soul. As cosmic as that may sound, it is very real, and those who have experienced this kind of connection know the Vixen speaks the truth. Once you truly love and trust one another, there is no room for prudence and barriers in sex. You should be able to give your man what he wishes because you know he only has the best intentions for you. He, in turn, should be willing to fulfill your every fantasy because he understands your intentions for him. In this state of pure mutuality, there is a certain power that arises from each sexual encounter with your mate. Because of the open communication that exists between you, you are able to meet his needs and calm the uproar of testosterone normally raging beneath his surface, thereby creating a willingly domesticated man. A man is only a man among other men, but to his woman he is all things. (Even a shivering, surrendering shell, once she has performed her magic.)
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Vixen Tip
Invest in toys and learn as many new tricks as it takes to keep your love life fresh and fun. Anal and vaginal beads and probes are easily found at any adult store or, for maximum privacy, online. Be very careful as you’re poking and prodding. You don’t want to hurt one another! Lubricant is essential, and the tried-and-true KY brand has never let me down.
One of you stands on all fours (the Top).
The other lays beneath in a sixty-nine position (the Bottom).
The Bottom enters the Top with a probe, either anally or vaginally.
The Bottom orally stimulates the Top, simultaneously.
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Vixen Tip
FOR THE ADVANCED COUPLE
Lie on your back and bring your legs up and around, over your head.
Your partner sits on your face for oral copulation.
Your partner enters you with a probe, either anally or vaginally.
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Vixen Tip
FOR THE ADVENTUROUS COUPLE
Your partner lies on his back with his legs hanging off the bed and his feet on the floor.
Lie on top of your partner in a sixty-nine position.
After a little fun in this traditional position, your mate holds on to you tightly and stands up with you.
Once you’re certain it’s safe, you can both continue orally stimulating the other while standing up or even walking around. Since you will be upside down in the position, I like to call this the Upside-Down Pineapple Cake. Enjoy!
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Everyone knows that sex can be a form of power, but what many people, especially women, don’t often realize is that female sexual power, when properly applied, has the ability to overpower and lead the male. Once you understand the range and complexity of your sexuality and are free to utilize it without shame, you become intriguingly powerful. Single women are then free