Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [68]
All right, now—I hate to go here but I must, because whether we want to admit it or not, anal sex exists. A lot of us are having it and even more of us would like to and just can’t muster the courage. Well, surprisingly I’m sure, I have a bit to say about anal sex.
First of all, anal sex is a huge commitment and something I feel should be saved for your husband. I mean seriously, do you really want a bunch of guys running around telling people they fucked you in the butt? I wish we all felt the same way about vaginal and oral sex but, hey, one cause at a time, I guess. So, for those of you who have not been anally entered but would consider trying it, please wait until you’re sure the man who pops your backdoor cherry is the man who is committed to you.
Now, at first, anal sex hurts—bad. And not only that, it has the potential to be messy and bacterially hazardous. It’s like running through a minefield; the chances of a gruesome, painful encounter are damn near assured. But if it’s what you want to do, how can you make it as pleasant as unnaturally possible?
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Vixen Tip
To avoid an ultramessy experience, you may want to empty your bowels before anal intercourse, either naturally or with an enema.
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Vixen Tip
Here are a few tips on preparing for your big backdoor day.
When you’re alone, take some time to practice on your own with anal probes and dildos.
Begin with smaller instruments and gradually move up to larger ones.
Be sure to use lots of lubrication.
Try a little bit every day until you feel you are able to take your man.
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Okay, now after lots of practice, you’ll have to get suited for game day. Put this next tip in your playbook!
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Vixen Tip
Here are a few tips on making your first anal experience bearable.
Warm up first with anal probes and dildos.
Engage in vaginal sex first in order to get your libido and adrenaline going.
While having sex in a doggie-style position, have your man loosen your anal cavity with the toys and/or his fingers.
Once hot and wet, decide which position will be best for you to be entered. Try letting him in from behind while lying on your side to avoid your body tensing.
Upon feeling the pressure of his manhood against your sphincter, push outward as if having a bowel movement. This will help you not to clench your sphincter muscle instead.
Lube, lube, lube, but be wary of numbing lubricants, which can prove dangerous by not allowing you to feel if you’re being hurt or even torn. And for unprotected couples, numbing lubricants will obviously affect you and your partner.
Keep antibacterial wipes by the bedside to clean his genitals and yours, should you decide to switch to vaginal sex.
Clean and disinfect all sex toys after use with either cleansing products sold at sex stores or simply by dropping in boiling hot water and antibacterial soap or solution.
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Well, now that we’ve tried that let’s tackle something that should be a lot simpler: oral sex. I say, “should be,” because from what I am hearing, women aren’t as good at it as either sex would like. That’s right, I could be talking about you—you may give terrible head! How do you think your husband feels about that? Just imagine your man going down on you and licking around like you’re some sort of melting ice-cream cone. Damn it, we want suction, we want it fast, we want it slow, we want it up, down, and sideways, too!
Guess what, girls? Men want the same thing, and we (and when I say “we,” I mean “you”) are just not giving him what he wants! First rule of the gift of oral sex is: you have to love it. There is nothing worse for a man than feeling as if he’s forcing you or you’re forcing yourself to do it. No, gagging with disgust during the act is not a turn-on.
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Vixen Tip
Spend some real time with the penis in your life, and make up your mind whether you really love