Vixen Manual - Karrine Steffans [70]
Get creative and find your rhythm. If it helps, use music to help you create a rhythmic flow to your blowjob.
Don’t be afraid to use your hands, but pay close attention to your partner’s reaction. This can make the head of his penis too sensitive and move him further away from orgasm. Use one hand or two; move them up, down, and in a circular motion. Underhand and overhand positions are both pleasurable.
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I can just hear it now: “That’s it? That’s all you’re gonna give us?” Yes, girls, that’s all I can give you, and here’s a great example as to why. I am no layman when it comes to the art of pleasing a man, whether it is with my witty repartee or with my legendary mouth. When I began one of my more long-standing relationships, I just knew I had this one in the bag, sexually speaking. I was sure I would knock his socks off, rock his world, give him jungle fever, and the fever for the flavor. All jokes and clichéd phrases aside, let me not be shy here, honey —I knew I could suck a dick and make it splash in three minutes or less. Period. So there I was, poised and positioned to change this man’s life, forever. I was certain that I would become, for him, the standard by which all dick sucking that came after me, if any, would be measured. I did all the things I’ve told you to do, but I made one crucial mistake: I treated his cock like it was someone else’s. Basically, I performed the same old tricks with my new man.
Accustomed to roughing it and manhandling penises, I grabbed that thing, shoved it in my mouth, applied pressure, and incorporated my hands, my lips, and all my usual techniques. Within seconds, he was screaming…and it was not out of ecstasy. That man was screaming for his life! All I heard was, “Ouch!” and “No!” and before I knew it, I was being pushed off his injured member. Imagine that! Me, pushed away from a penis! Are you as shocked as I was?
Come to find out, this man had a sensitive penis (who knew they even existed?) and needed only a light rubbing of the lips to arouse him. No hands, no suction, no bells, no whistles. I’d never met a man like this before in my life—a man who actually wanted a lazy blowjob! Yes, it made my life a lot easier; still, I missed the experience of ravishing a man and eating him up. But this was a different man, different in every way, and everything I’d known before was thrown out the window. My point is this: what works for one man most likely won’t work for another. When it comes to fellatio, men and their penises are like fingerprints. No combination is the same. So if you’re looking for me to tell you the exact, perfect way to give head, stop being lazy. Throw your man on his back, rip his bottoms off, and figure out what he likes.
What I have offered you are just basic tips; it’ll be up to you to get in the game and find a position that’s right for you. Everyone’s technique is different, and the act of giving a man oral sex is such a personal one, there is almost no way to ensure what’s good for one couple will be just as good for another. Take your time, explore, take notes, and pleasure him orally as often as humanly possible, if that’s what he likes. Allow yourself to be turned on by turning him on, and don’t be afraid to listen to criticism and instruction.
Some of you will be good, some of you will be great, and a few of you may even be super. But as long as you and your mate are comfortable with your skill level, it doesn’t matter what other couples are doing and what other women know. Just be open to him and to learning more and even to inventing your own tricks. Don’t just change positions, change locations; make it exciting every time, and your love life will never be the same. Besides, a good man will return the favor, and that’s always an added bonus.
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Vixen Tip
Ummm…I know you may have a hard time believing this, but some men don’t care much for oral sex at all! So, first, find out how your man feels about it, and if he’s all for